Women Have Sensitive “Creepy Guy Radars”
The older women get and the more experience they get with men, the more sensitivetheir Creepy Guy Radar becomes. A creepy guy slips past her radar, freaks her out, and she automatically updates and “programs” her Creepy Guy Radar with the way he looked, acted, sounded, etc. and the whole experience and rolls out the creepy guy radar “version 2.0” update to her friends. The next time a guy comes around that, even remotely, resembles the former creepy guy, her Creepy Guy Radar is triggered – sirens are whaling, lights are flashing, and she hears, “Warning! Creepy guy detected! Abort!” If you even cause a blip on her Creepy Guy Radar, the iron gates come down, she’s on high-alert, and it’s a no go.
Creepy, Weird, And Sketchy Isn’t The Impression 99% Of Us Are Looking To Make
Being creepy, weird, awkward, and sketchy stems from a lack of social experience, a lack of experience with women, and even, growing up with weird and awkward parents and siblings.
Sometimes being creepy, weird, and awkward is just normal for you and you don’t know any better.
Creepy, Weird, And Sketchy Gives Her The Serial Killer Vibe
Just because you don’t know better doesn’t mean it’s OK with women. Yes, there’s a slim possibility that she could be just as creepy, weird, awkward, and sketchy and the two of you can be the creepy and weird couple doing awkward things together, but with most women, it’s a major turn off and scares them away.
It doesn’t make women mean – it simply means your thinking, behavior, and habits go against their natural and instinctive desire to feel safe and comfortable. It’s not normal for women to be attracted to creepy, weird, awkward, and sketchy men. It goes against their biology.
So, to help you identify how you’re being creepy, why it scares women, and how you can adjust your thinking, behavior, and habits so you’re not the “creepy guy”, here are 20 things that make women think you’re creepy and weird.
1. Stalking Her On Facebook and Social Media
Following everything she does, hitting the thumbs up button, and commenting on all of her posts makes her think you’re sketchy, creepy, and weird.
It’s being a great Facebook friend, it’s stalking. It’s like having a person follow you around EVERYWHERE you go and comment on every single thing you do. You feel like you have no privacy.
Instead of dating her, you will get blocked.
2. Staring At, Checking Out, And Hitting On Women Young Enough To Be Your Daughter Or Granddaughter
If you’re an older man, it’s weird and creepy to stare at young women and act as if you’ve never seen an attractive woman before. It’s very noticeable what you’re doing and weirds everyone out.
If you’re polite, funny, charming, and confident, and you don’t give off the “creepy old man” vibe, women will say things like, “He’s attractive for an older man and I like him.”
Your age doesn’t make you creepy – it’s how you handle yourself and your awareness of what’s “normal” and not normal.
3. Too Much Staring
Even if in your mind you’re like, “Daaamn! She’s hot!”, keep it together, only take a quick glance, and don’t stare like a creepy guy.
It’s not cool to start day dreaming and lose track of where you are and what you’re doing. It’s weird, creepy, and other people can see you.
If you’re going to stare, be smart about it. When you’re talking to her, hold eye contact with her for just a millisecond longer than what’s considered “normal” so she knows you’re interested. Be staring at her boobs, butt, and legs. It’s OK to take a quick glance, but have some self-control.
4. Too Much Eye Contact
When staring into her eyes, don’t do it so long that she thinks you want to wear her skin. Too much eye contact freaks her out.
If she breaks the eye contact, don’t just keep staring her down like you’re a wolf about to kill its prey. Be cool about it.
5. Not Enough Eye Contact
On the contrary, if you can’t make eye contact at all, she’s going to think it’s weird.
If you’re a little kid, she thinks it’s “cute”. But, as a grown man, she’s more likely to think you escaped the insane asylum or you have some cognitive disabilities. The right amount of eye contact communicates you’re, at least somewhat, socially, mentally, and emotionally balanced.
6. Too Much Smiling
Some “dating advice” books and videos teach that smiling as much as possible is a “good” thing. No. No it’s not.
Smiling too much is weird. Especially fake smiling. Fake smiling is even creepier.
They’ve done studies, and you’ll learn about this in the eBook and Audiobook 99 Bad Boy Traits that Instantly Attract Women, about which facial expressions women find most attractive. The guy constantly smiling was voted as less attractive than the guy who wasn’t always smiling. The guy who wasn’t always smiling appeared more realistic.
This article says, “Happiness was rated as the most attractive expression in women while male happiness was rated the least attractive expression.”
Another article talks about facial expressions that drive women wild.
She isn’t going to think you’re a jerk if you’re not always smiling – even though you’re better off, from experience, being thought of as more of a jerk than a nice guy.
7. Too Many Compliments
It’s not necessary to constantly compliment women on the obvious. It’s OK to tell her she looks “nice” and you “enjoy spending time with her”, but don’t overdo it. Avoid the “Wow. You are so beautiful. Oh my God! You have the most beautiful eyes ever!” compliments. Most women never buy into it and it’s a waste of your time.
If she’s mentally and emotionally balanced and has a good level of self-esteem, she doesn’t “need” compliments to feel good about herself. She has a mirror and knows what she looks like, she knows what her dress looks like, and she knows what she smells like.
It’s creepy when you compliment her 30 times every single hour. It’s not getting you anywhere.
8. Too Much Laughing and Giggling
A guy I used to know giggled atthe stupidest things.
Me: “Have you seen my pencil?” Him: “Hahaha no. Hope you find it! Hahahaha. I bet someone took it. Hahaha.” Me: “WTF is so funny about losing my pencil?”
Surprisingly, he had trouble getting dates and keeping women around.
Control your creepy giggling – even if it’s just because you get nervous in social situations.
9. Laughing at Things that Aren’t Funny
The same guy also laughed at, clearly, inappropriate things.
Someone: “Did you see that wreck? The car flipped and it looks like the person was killed.” Him: “Daaaamn! That sucks! Hahaha. I hope the dude’s OK but it must’ve been wild being in the car while it was flipping! Hahahaha.”
Women are a lot more sensitive than men and laughing at inappropriate things makes her ask, “WTF is wrong with you, man?”
It’s OK to be a guy and laugh at stupid things, but know when it’s appropriate and inappropriate.
10. Too Much Touching
Yes, I teach in my eBooks and Audiobooks to make physical contact with her as soon as possible to increase comfort and attraction, but it’s important not to overdo it. It’s important to observe her reactions and behavior to see if she actually minds you touching her. If it’s clear she DOES mind, stop touching her.
Women make it VERY clear when they’re not comfortable being touched.
Pay attention to it or she’ll find the touching creepy and uncomfortable.
11. Too Much in Her Personal Space
It’s OK to get in her personal space once in a while but only “once in a while”. When you’re too much in her personal space and not giving her room, it’s weird and creepy.
Even incredibly attractive women (who smell fantastic) that are too much in your personal space will make you politely ask them to “get out of your bubble” for a second and give you some space. It’s weird for anyone.
Imagine all women having an invisible 2 – 3 foot boundary around them – don’t constantly be in that area. If you go into it without her pulling you into it or asking you, make it brief. Then, don’t go back into it for a while. Keep it balanced, give her space, and let her come into your “bubble” before you go back into hers.
If she wants you in her “bubble”, she’ll make it obvious.
12. Overly Concerned About What She Thinks and Feels
Asking women, “What are thinking about?” weirds them out and makes them think about throat-chopping you. Being overly concerned about what she’s thinking and feeling is easily mistaken as weird, creepy, and awkward. It’s invading her personal space, but in a different way.
Constantly asking her, “Is this OK? Are you comfortable? Can I get you anything? You sure?” and treating her like she’s helpless irritates her.
Worry about yourself and if she needs something, she’ll say so.
13. Too Jealous And Protective
Getting jealous, angry, and acting like a “tough guy” because another guy looks in her direction is weird, sketchy, and creepy. It makes things awkward. She barely knows you and you’re acting like her dad and boyfriend!
She’s a grown woman, not a child. She doesn’t need you to “protect” her from other guys checking her out.
14. Too Concerned with Reaction Seeking
It’s creepy when you keep trying to think of “funny” things to say because you’re seeking a reaction.
Your mindset should be as long as you’re having a good time, she will too. It’s not your job to keep her entertained. If she’s having a great time, great. If not, that’s her problem and you’re not there to cater to her. She can leave whenever she wants.
Stop thinking you have to entertain her and seek reactions. Just have a good time, enjoy yourself, and relax.
If you’re not acting creepy, weird, awkward, or sketchy, then it’s her job to contribute to the fun and positive experience as well.
15. Too Serious And Emotionless
You’ll learn in the eBook and Audiobook 99 Bad Boy Traits that Instantly attract Women that it’s OK to be serious. That you don’t have to be the funny guy all of the time. BUT, while being serious, it’s crucial to stay calm and relaxed and know how to enjoy yourself. Know when to turn off the “serious tough guy” act. Too serious communicates you’re insecure, afraid of what others think, and you have something to prove. Women don’t enjoy being around that guy. Also, it’s seen as creepy and weird by women who don’t understand why it’s so important to you to look like a tough guy.
Laugh when something’s funny, smile when something amuses you, etc. You don’t have to prove you’re a “real man”, “tough guy”, or “mature” by being too serious and emotionless.
16. Too Much Emotion
On the opposite end of the spectrum, the guy who’s too in touch with his emotions and not serious enough is also weird and creepy.
Tone it down. Too sensitive makes her think you’re a wimp. Too excited about everything makes her think you’re not realistic. The unrealistically-emotional guy is seen as putting on an act, being fake, or “too emotional” in general.
Women don’t want “too emotional” or “too excited”. It comes off as creepy and weird.
17. Too Perverted and Obsessed With Sex
Know when to pull back and draw the line with perverted jokes and derogatory remarks. There’s a VERY fine line between women thinking it’s funny and thinking it’s creepy, weird, and perverted.
Guys who are having some luck with women, but can improve, often take being perverted way too far. Guys who aren’t doing as well with women think being perverted is “bad” and not the “gentlemanly” thing to do.
It’s OK to be a “perverted gentleman” and like sex, be comfortable with it, and joke around about it. It’s not OK to be obsessed with all of it.
If you joke around about sex and she doesn’t laugh or join in on the fun, pump the breaks. You dipped your toe in the water, it’s ice cold, and you probably shouldn’t take a dip in that pool. It’s NOT OK to move forward with that agenda.
If you throw it out and she doesn’t catch it, then stop.
18. Lying About Dumb Things
Women say things like, “That’s so creepy. Why would he lie about that?”
It’s weird, childish, and irresponsible to lie about small things and it’s guaranteed you can’t be trusted to be honest about anything else.
Don’t be known as the weird guy who lies for stupid reasons. No one likes that guy or wants to hang out with him.
It makes you weird and creepy because no one understands your need to lie.
19. Poor Hygiene, Dirty Clothes, and Smelling Bad
Poor hygiene is the worst mistake you can make with women. If you don’t care about your breath or your health and you’re fine with smelling like cat poop, that’s great. BUT women do care and they find it weird and creepy.
Make an effort.
20. Lack of Attention to Personal Appearance
It’s not a stretch to say that if you smell bad, you probably don’t look great either. People usually smell how they look and vice versa.
Would you take a big whiff of a guy who’s been living on the street for two months? Probably not because he LOOKS like he smells bad. The same goes with you. Pay attention to what you look like. Creepy dudes usually look and smell “sketchy” and it freaks women out.
If you have sketchy-looking hair growing from your nose, ears, or face, take care of it. If your nails are gross and dirty, trim and clean them. Take better care of your skin. Develop better eating habits.
It all contributes to your appearance.
Conclusion: Work on Eliminating Your Creepiness
Too many men just aren’t aware when they’re being creepy and weird. If you even THINK you’re being creepy, weird, awkward, or sketchy, stop what you’re doing and get yourself together.
Pay attention to your thinking, behavior, and habits. Watch your reactions. Improve your personal appearance. Improve your hygiene and the way you smell. Creepy guys are getting it wrong in these areas.
Find where you need to improve and get to work.
Thanks for reading,
– Marc Summers