Getting Phone Numbers Shouldn’t Be Scary or Difficult
When getting phone numbers, many of us hesitate so much that we become full of anxiety and we’re a nervous wreck when we ask, “Hey, uhh… can I have your number?” or “Is it ok if I get your number?” We treat it like asking a celebrity for their autograph.
Getting phone numbers should be simple, quick, and effortless.
So, from getting hundreds of women’s phone numbers over the years, here are 10 ways to make getting phone numbers easier, faster, simpler, and less painful.
1. NEVER “Ask” For Her Phone Number
In the eBooks and Audiobooks How to Quit Being a Loser With Women and 99 Bad Boy Traits, you’ll learn “asking” for permission doesn’t spark attraction. It kills attraction because you make yourself look weak and insecure.
Asking “Can I?” or “Is it OK?” means she unconsciously “knows” you need permission. She senses you NEED her approval.
“Asking” for her phone number sets you up for rejection. It gives her the upper hand, puts you in the submissive position, and gives your power away to her. Since you gave her your power, she can use it to EASILY REJECT YOU without any second thought.
Asking for permission makes it easier for her to reject you
The more power you give away, the less attraction she feels. The more power you keep, the MORE attraction she feels. Very simple.
Never give women the opportunity to use your own power against you and never set yourself up to be easily rejected.
She doesn’t want the power you’re giving her when you “ask” for her number and she doesn’t want to use it against you.
2. Tell Her to Give You Her Phone Number
Instead of asking for her phone number, just confidently and politely TELL HER to give you her number – but, of course, not in a controlling, demanding, or creepy way.
Say, “You seem awesome but I gotta go. Give me your number. We’ll chat later.” OR, right in the middle of the conversation, at a point she least expects it and when she’s having fun talking to you, pull out your phone and say, “Hey, real quick, give me your number.” Don’t explain. Don’t seek permission. When she gives it to you, go right back to the conversation. The more relaxed and cool you are about it, the cooler she’ll be about it.
When she’s not expecting you to ask for her phone number, she’s caught off guard and more likely to give it to you. She’s not anticipating you asking for it so she doesn’t have her guard up to defend against it. “Asking” gives away your power and she can use that power to reject you if she wants. BUT politely “instructing” her communicates that YOU’RE COMFORTABLE BEING IN CHARGE AND TAKING THE LEAD. It tells her you’re not afraid to go for what you want.
She’s much more likely to say, “Yea sure. That’d be great.”
3. Just say “What’s Your Number?”
In the middle of the conversation or when you’re leaving, instead of asking for her phone number or instructing her to give you hers, just say “Real quick. What’s your number?” as cool, casual, and calmly as possible. Make it sound more like more of a statement than a question and like you’re instructing her to give it to you. Say it as if you’re 100% sure she’s going to give it to you.
The more “whatever” you are about it, the less she’ll think about it and the faster she’ll give it to you.
4. Give Her YOUR Phone Number
Giving her YOUR phone number communicates you’re CONFIDENT and NOT AFRAID of rejection. It also means you’re taking all the risk and communicating you’re the prize and aware she may not call.
Giving her YOUR phone number sends all of the right messages.
It also communicates YOU’RE NOT NEEDY and if she doesn’t call, it’s no big deal.
Giving her your phone number also saves you time, energy, and effort. If she takes your number and doesn’t call, you’re not wasting time trying to talk to women who aren’t interested.
How is it done? Make it quick. Just say, “I hate to cut you short but I gotta run. I’d like to be friends. Here’s my number, call or text, and we’ll chat later.” Then get her phone and put your number in it or instruct her to do it. Say, “Here’s my number, ready for it?”
Don’t ASK if she wants to take your number. Don’t ask for permission to give her your number. Just give it to her.
If she refuses, which rarely happens, brush it off, be indifferent about, and say, “That’s cool”. Then walk away as if it never happened.
Don’t write your name and number down unless it’s necessary and don’t call your phone from hers unless she knows you’re doing it.
When you give her your number, she’s more likely to say, “OK. I’ll call you right now so you can get my number too.”
5. Say “Let’s Exchange Numbers”
To women, exchanging phone numbers feels safer, friendlier, and less risky. You’ll rarely ever get a “no”.
When you’re about to leave or you’re saying bye, very calmly and confidently say, “Before I go, let’s exchange numbers”.
6. Say “Text Me”
If you’re short on time and really have to leave, tell her, “Hey I gotta run. Text me”. Say it as if there’s no doubt in your mind she’ll do it. If she’s taking too long, I’ll say, “Here. What’s your number? I’ll send you a text.”
AS SOON as you get it, walk away and send a text that says, “It’s me. Save my number.”
Know When to Stop and Walk Away
Weird things happen so be ready for anything.
If she says, “Oh, I’d love to but I don’t have a phone” or anything else that sounds like she’s playing games, just say, “OK” and WALK AWAY. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME writing your number down for her. She’s not going to call.
If she says, “No. Let me have yours instead” – DON’T DO IT. Walk away. The deal is off. Women often use this tactic a defense mechanism to get guys to go away. Don’t be a sucker and fall for it.
As you’ll learn in the eBook and Audiobook How to Quit Being a Loser With Women, women are experts at making up excuses to get men they aren’t interested in to go away.
If you suspect she’s making up excuses, lying, or trying to get you to go away, just stop and walk away.
Don’t Lie or Be Manipulative To Get Her Phone Number
When getting her phone number or giving her yours, don’t be manipulative in any way.
Women know when you’re being fake and dishonest so don’t play any games or pretend to be someone you’re not. Just be straightforward and direct with your intentions.
Thanks For Reading,
– Marc Summers