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Getting Back Into Dating After A Divorce: The Ultimate Guide

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Divorces are tough on many aspects of your life, from your finances through to your social life, but they’re often most damaging to your love life. After all, it’s hard to image spending time with someone else after your divorce, so you may choose to retreat into yourself and refrain from spending time with others, but this would be a mistake. Getting back into dating is vital to improving your mental well being, so you should consider taking the time to find a way to reintroduce yourself to the dating space.

Here are some top tips on how you can make dating work for you after a divorce.

Remember That It’s Not Just You

getting back into dating after divorce - it's not just you

Whilst divorce rates in the UK have been slowly decreasing over recent years, they remain strong, and there’s no way of recording how many people suffer the breakup of a long-term relationship but weren’t married. As such, it’s important that you remember that you’re not alone; there are loads of people out there recovering from the disintegration of an important relationship. Try your best to remember what you enjoyed about dating and consider your divorce as a chance to enter into an exciting new adventure.

Try Practicing On An Escort

If you don’t feel ready for a new relationship, then try testing out your skills on an escort first. They will have the experience to understand the dating market and will be able to gently guide you through the evening so that you feel confident and ready to face the dating world again. Some escort companies, like Adultseek, even provide a dedicated girlfriend experience so that you can practice being in a relationship without the commitment that this usually entails.

Use Online Dating To Meet New People

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There are loads of dating sites out there, and they each offer a unique way to meet people without having to spend lots of time and money going out and hanging around in specific bars. Find the site that’s best for you and then make an honest profile that reflects you and what you’re looking for from your new relationship. Be honest about your divorce and what you’re expecting from any connection you make so that you don’t end up disappointed. Make sure that your picture is up to date to avoid making them feel cheated when you arrive and don’t look anything like your profile photo. Honesty and openness will ensure that you find the right people and don’t waste your time going on dates that lead nowhere.

Take The Time To Find The Right Person

It’s important that you find the right person to go on your first date after your divorce, so take the time to get to know a few people before you take the plunge. Find someone you have a real connection with and suggest a meeting in a suitable place where you’ll both feel comfortable. Try not to put too much pressure on the first date and keep things casual so that you don’t scare them off and instead try to make a real connection.

Be Friends First

getting back into dating after divorce - be friends first

When you initially meet someone you like, be their friend first to see how things go. If you both feel like you want to take the relationship further then this can be easily achieved, but if it doesn’t work out then you haven’t wasted your time and have still made a new friend. Befriending them first also takes the pressure off both of you and will make you feel less concerned about how the relationship is progressing. After a big trauma like a divorce it can be easy to want to jump straight back in and make a commitment again, but this might not be the best option for either of you, so take the time to get to know them and work out what you’re both looking for in the early stages.

Don’t Give Up

Getting back into dating after your divorce is always going to be tough, but remember that you won’t immediately succeed, and it might take several tries to find the person who’s right for you. The important thing is that you keep trying and put yourself out there. Being in a relationship can give you a range of surprising health benefits, and so it’s important that you keep going out and trying to find someone to share the rest of your life with.

It’s never going to be easy to get back into dating after a divorce, but by following these tips you should be able to make the transition easier for yourself. Remember to take everything at your own pace and only do as much as you feel able to. You might not meet the love of your life on your first date, but each experience provides you with the chance to learn more about yourself and your preferences now that you’re single again.

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