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How to Be a Bad Boy Around Women – 22 Traits Nice Guys Lack

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Women Crave Bad Boys More Than Nice Guys

The Bad Boy:

  • Effortlessly gets the nice guy’s “dream girl”.
  • Sweeps her off of her feet, fulfills her deepest fantasies, and has her missing, calling, and texting him.
  • Is NEVER desperate for women’s attention, affection, and approval.

These aren’t traits of dangerous bad boys – law breakers, woman abusers, drug users, and even murderers. You don’t need to be this type of “bad boy” to attract women. The bad boy traits in this article spark attraction inside women so deep that even their friends and family can’t convince them to leave you alone.

Many “Nice” Guys and Weak Men Pretend to be Bad Boys

Wannabe Bad Boys Do Everything to Get Attention and Make Themselves Feel Less Insecure:

  • Keep a straight face and stick their chest out to look at tough as possible or they smile about everything, laugh loud to get attention, and pretend they’re completely care-free and don’t give a shit about anything at all
  • Get a crazy haircut, get bunch of meaningless tattoos to “look the part”, or do something extreme to themselves to make sure they’re noticed
  • See UFC fighters, movie stars, rappers, and social media stars and “decide” they want to dress and act like them too
  • Buy a truck they don’t use for work or to haul anything in, modify the muffler to make it loud and annoying, put big and tough-looking tires on it, slap vulgar and douchy stickers on the back window that “say” how cool and tough they are and how they’ll “beat you up”, and finish it off with a pair of balls hanging from the back bumper
  • Talk a lot of shit and behave aggressively to get attention until they’re around a guy who intimidates them and then they don’t say anything

With wannabe bad boys, the most important part that makes it work to attract women is usually missing – the mindset! 99% of what makes you a bad boy is your mindset. It’s the way you think and the beliefs you hold in your mind. Looks and attitude help a little bit but don’t get you results with women.

The bad boy attitude, style, and appearance naturally follows when you work on developing the mindset.

Women Have Always Loved Bad Boys

James Dean bad boy

In the 50’s, Marlon Brando and James Dean brought a whole new level of being a bad boy to the big screen in movies like A Streetcar Named Desire and Rebel Without a Cause and women simply couldn’t handle the “emotions” and “feelings” coming up as they watched. They reported feeling strong “sexual urges” and physical responses they weren’t used to!

Even though Marlon Brando and James Dean are long gone, women STILL obsess and fantasize about being with them or meeting a man just like them!

Being a bad boy, or at least possessing powerful and attractive bad boy traits, cuts through the nice guy nonsense and pounds her “attraction button” so hard she, literally, has a hard time controlling her emotions and feelings for you.

Bad boy traits flip her “attraction switch” and she’s unable to turn it off.

If you want to get “flipping her attraction switch” down to a science, read this eBook – How to Quit Being a Loser With Women.

How Being a Bad Boy Applies to You

These bad boy traits, which are a small part of the eBook 99 Bad Boy Traits, make dating, relationships, and even, marriage easier for any man. They separate “average” and nice guys from the bad boys she’d rather be with and help you spark an attraction inside of her so deep, strong, and fast that she’ll have no choice but to want to be with you.

Since these bad boy traits make women feel powerful emotions they don’t feel with other men, women will say things like:

  • “There’s something about you… it’s different.”
  • “Sorry, I feel like I’m throwing myself at you. Am I being too forward?”
  • “I don’t meet guys like you very often.”
  • “You have a girlfriend or wife – there’s no way you’re single.”
  • “I’m feeling things I never feel this soon after meeting someone.”

Here are 22 bad boy traits that make women say the same things to you:


1. Bad Boys Don’t Pretend

Nice guys pretend to be someone they’re not. They pretend to be a lot nicer, sweeter, cooler, or more charming than they actually are to increase the chances of women liking them. They act one way with friends and family and another around attractive women.

Bad boys don’t change their personality to accommodate whoever is in the room.

They don’t try to be sweeter, cooler, smarter, or nicer to make a good impression.

Bad boys are who they are, don’t care how anyone feels about it, and their authenticity attracts women like flies because it communicates maturity, composure, and honesty.

Watch James Dean Just Be Who He Is In This Interview:

2. Bad Boys Have Authentic Confidence

Fake confidence puts women on edge. Authentic confidence makes them feel deep attraction.

The bad boy’s confidence is natural, deep, and internal rather than fake, shallow, and contrived. It doesn’t come from money, women, clothes, cars, cool houses, etc. Strip away the “external confidence builders” of the weak and nice guys and the bad boy doesn’t lose confidence.

This natural, authentic, solid, powerful, and permanent confidence can’t be faked and communicates you’re sure of who you are and where you’re going.

Women can’t get enough of this confidence.

3. Bad Boys Have Attractive Body Language

bad boy body language

A bad boy is more physically attractive to women because his natural, deep, and powerful confidence is apparent in every aspect of his life – especially in his body language. He doesn’t slouch, hunch, or communicate he’s insecure, unsure of himself, afraid of women, or caring what anyone thinks.

The bad boy’s body language communicates, “I am high-status, confident, attractive, sure of myself, and I do what I want, get what I want, and no one’s going to do sh*t about it.”

His body language parallels his natural and confident mindset.

4. Bad Boys Aren’t Afraid of Rejection

bad boys unafraid

Bad boys do things with purpose because they aren’t worried about what might happen, what she’ll think, or how she’ll react. If it doesn’t go as he intended, the bad boy doesn’t make it a big deal.

Nice guys, on the other hand, get weird and afraid to grab her hand, pull her in, kiss her, and get physical with her. The fear of rejection holds them back.

The bad boy isn’t afraid of rejection. When wants to hold her hand, he grabs her hand. When he wants to kiss her, he grabs her, pulls her in, and kisses her. If he wants to touch her, he does it.

If she’s attracted to you, she doesn’t mind, and even likes it, when you’re assertive and aren’t scared to take things to the next level with her.

5. Bad Boys Don’t Try to “Fit In”

Nice guys often want to be part of the “in crowd” because they think that’s the “attractive” thing to do. Nice guys follow trends, fashion, and styles so they’ll be seen as “cool” or part of a certain crowd. They modify their behavior and use the latest slang so they’ll fit in and be accepted. They believe women will see them and say, “Oh wow, you’re an awesome dude! Here’s my phone number!”

Bad boys behave according to how they feel and aren’t influenced by the opinions of others.

Women don’t dream of dating and marrying the “follower”. They want the guy who does as he pleases and is happy with his place in the world.


6. Bad Boys Don’t Need Approval

Bad boys wake up in the morning and live their lives to make themselves happy. You might think it’s a little self-centered, but that’s OK.

A little self-centered is more attractive than trying to please everyone.

They’re not focused making women happy and seeking their approval. They don’t care whether or not they have the approval of their friends and family. As long as they approve of themselves, that’s all that matters.

Start approving of yourself. Quit living your life to just to make women happy. If you live to make others happy, YOU will never be happy.

7. Bad Boys Aren’t Victims

Bad boys don’t allow themselves to become victims and they don’t feel sorry for themselves when bad things happen. They adapt and overcome.

Nice guys whine, bitch, and complain about what’s not fair, what went wrong, and what’s not going their way.

Bad boys suck it up, act like a man, push through it, and move on. They know controlling their emotions is better and more attractive than complaining and acting like a victim.

Crying, whining, bitching, and complaining is weak, unattractive, and less effective than dealing with the problem and moving forward.

When going through tough times, instead of being the victim, make the conscious decision to adapt, overcome, take the high road, and deal with it.

8. Bad Boys Think For Themselves

Bad boys don’t need to “fit in” or be followers because they think for themselves.

In psychology, having an Internal Locus of Control, something covered in How to Quit Being a Loser With Women, means not looking “externally” to see if you’re on the right track and dressing, thinking, and behaving like most people. Instead, you’re looking “internally” so to see if everyone else is on the right track.

Bad boys have a very natural and strong Internal Locus of Control because they don’t follow “the crowd”.

Think for yourself. Don’t look at everyone else to see what you should be doing. Look inside to see if you’re on the right track and if everyone else is on the right track.

As a result, others naturally look up to you as a leader and women feel more attraction for you.

9. Bad Boys Are Brutally Honest

A bad boy says what’s on his mind and tells you how it is.

Nice guys are more likely to lie because they care about women’s approval more than integrity and honesty.

Bad boys are better at looking women in the eyes and being brutally honest.

It’s better to piss her off with honesty than to piss her off with lies.

She may not like the truth but she’ll trust and respect you because of your honesty.

10. Bad Boys Are Passionate

Bad boys are very intense and passionate about what they do and they don’t half-ass it. They put all of their energy and focus into whatever it is they’re doing – and that includes attracting women. They display more sexual energy and passion towards women they’re interested in.

Women read erotic novels because they feature passionate and intense men that women DREAM of meeting. By the way, most of these erotic novels use bad boys as their main characters.

Look at 50 Shades of Grey. One of the most popular erotic novels ever written and the main character is the ultimate bad boy. He’s a bit intense and a sexual freak, but still a bad boy.


11. Bad Boys Value Themselves

Nice guys are full of self-doubt, self pity, and they hold a negative image of themselves in their mind.

Bad boys value themselves and don’t put up with anyone trying to paint them in a negative light. They value their behavior, mindset, and aren’t going to let anyone mess that up for them.

She’s far more attracted to a bad boy who values himself and knows place in the world.

12. Bad Boys Pursue What They Want

Bad boys don’t think, “Man, I WISH I could talk to that girl… she’s hot!” or, “Man, I wish I could date her…” They skip the self talk and actually do it!

The bad boy gets outside of his comfort zone and goes after what he wants. If he wants her number, he gets it. If he wants to see her again, he tells her. He gets over his insecurities and makes it happen. When he wants something, nothing stands in his way.

Develop the same mindset – when you want something, take action. Don’t allow your thoughts and fear to stop you. Make the decision and move towards it ASAP.

13. Bad Boys Don’t Get Played

“Played” means getting your heart broken because you’re too blind or inexperienced to see what’s actually going on.

Bad boys have experience with women, know “the game”, and don’t fall for the same tricks, excuses, and games as nice guys. They know when something isn’t right.

When she says, “Umm… how about you give me YOUR number” the nice guy gives her his number not knowing she’s never going to call. When she cancels 3 dates with 3 different excuses, the nice guy just keeps asking her out. She plays games, she’s flaky, sneaky, and dishonest, and the nice guy keeps thinking of how beautiful she is and overlooks all of the red flags.

With bad boys, when she asks for his number instead, he walks away. When she keeps cancelling, she’s a waste of his time. When she’s being sketchy, flaky, sneaky, dishonest, and playing games, he moves on because he knows he can do better.

Nice guys are naive, fall in love way too fast, and get their hearts stomped to pieces.

The bad boy doesn’t go “all in” because he’s smart, experienced, and knows most women aren’t perfect angels. He spends time with her, observes, and figures her out. He’s careful, observant, and knows not to put his heart on the line. He’s smart enough to always on the lookout for red flags that mean trouble.

Bad boys who attract a lot of women are smart, experienced, know what they want, and are able to spot nonsense from a mile away.

Since she’s used to nice guys and “losers“, she’s shockingly surprised when she meets a bad boy who knows better.

14. Bad Boys Handle Their Problems

Bad boys handle their problems and don’t let them grow out of control.

Women want men who handle their problems instead of waiting until they become too much to handle.

In your own life, handle your problems immediately and don’t let them become worse. When problems arise, fix them right away and get rid of them.

If your life is riddled with problems and you aren’t fixing them, women will keep running away.

15. Bad Boys Aren’t Clowns

Bad boys know how and when to be funny but it’s not one of their main concerns. They’re not “funny” guys. They don’t care about “entertaining” anyone.

The “serious guy” appeal works just fine and the bad boy only says something funny if it’s funny to him. He doesn’t seek reactions and approval.

It’s VERY IMPORTANT to understand this.

He knows he already has her approval and doesn’t need to joke around too much and be a clown.

In the eBook and Audiobook How to Quit Being a Loser With Women, you’ll learn how to be funnier and more likable.


16. Bad Boys Aren’t Sorry


Nice guys apologize too much:

  • He’s 2 minutes late picking her up – he apologizes.
  • Accidentally bumps her – he apologizes.
  • Makes a joke she doesn’t think is funny – he apologizes.
  • Makes a comment she doesn’t care for – he apologizes.
  • Tries holding her hand and she pulls away – he apologizes.
  • Misses her call or takes too long to text back – he apologizes.

Apologizing too much makes you look weak, insecure, and unsure of yourself.

Bad boys don’t apologize as often:

  • He accidentally bumps into or touches her – he looks at her and tells her not to get excited.
  • He makes a joke he thinks is funnier than she does – he tells her to work on her sense of humor.
  • Grabs her hand and she pulls away – he ignores it like it never happened.

Bad boys don’t seek approval by apologizing for everything. Women like him or they don’t. Either way, he’s fine with it.

Be comfortable in your own skin and stop apologizing for who you are and what you do.

17. Unphased – Bad Boys Don’t Care


The most powerful trait all bad boys share is THEY SIMPLY DON’T CARE AS MUCH AS NICE GUYS DO.

Caring too much what everyone thinks makes you a nice guy.

Bad boys care less what anyone thinks, especially beautiful women, and aren’t phased by opinions that aren’t his own.

Caring too much what women think kills the attraction and pushes you into the friend zone.

18. Bad Boys Are Unpredictable

Women are attracted to unpredictability. As long as you’re not going nuts, being abusive, and smacking women around, then unpredictability helps your dating life.

If she can predict what you’re going to do next, like buying flowers or asking her out on a date, she’s probably bored and thinking of ways to “politely” let you down.

Bad boys are like the movie you can’t stop watching because it’s exciting and unpredictable.

19. Bad Boys Don’t Compare Themselves to Others

A bad boy doesn’t wish he was like other men. He looks in the mirror and says, “Awesome. I’m happy with who I am.”

Nice guys compare themselves to higher-status and more dominant males and wish they had their life, looks, charm, etc.

The bad boy looks at other men and wonders why they aren’t on his level and thinking the way he does.

20. Bad Boys Leave Her Wanting More

The bad boy causes women to fall madly in love and then leaves them wanting more for years and years to come. He doesn’t milk the date until it’s dry, stay on the phone until she’s bored, give her everything she wants, or tell her how much he likes her too soon.


Most bad boys NEVER reveal their true feelings because they know keeping their cards close keeps women close.

They give her just enough but not everything she wants. This multiplies the attraction and intensifies her desire.

If women always leave first, it’s a sign you’re giving way too much too soon.

21. Rebel – Bad Boys Bend and Break the Rules

Women love men who live on the edge and don’t conform to a standard of thinking or behavior.

Since bad boys do whatever they want, they usually aren’t fond of rules and laws.

Not all bad boys break the law and you don’t have to go jail or prison to prove you have the bad boy mentality.

They’re not idiots, they’re just not fond of the laws or rules. They don’t like being told what to, when to do it, and how to do it. It feels like being a slave to society. Some think following rules to a fault is a cowardly way to live and some rules are meant to be bent or broken.

22. Bad Boys Don’t Worship Women

Bad boys don’t worship women and put them on a pedestal. Their lives don’t revolve around getting women’s approval.

Nice guys make money just to spend it on women who will give them approval. Bad boys don’t.

Nice guys also spend a lot of time coming up with the newest and sneakiest way to manipulate women into giving them approval.

This isn’t the bad boy’s mindset. He doesn’t spend time worrying about how to get women to like him. He just lives his life and when he’s around women, he relaxes and has fun.

If she likes him, cool. If not, no big deal.


Bad boys always attract more women than nice guys who don’t get it.

99% of guys who are excellent at attracting and keeping women around have bad boy traits that nice guys lack.

You can be a “good guy” with attractive bad boy traits and still have the same success and results with women as bad boys. The more you make these traits part of your natural behavior, the more success you’ll have with women.

Thanks for reading,

– Marc Summers

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13 Comments on “How to Be a Bad Boy Around Women – 22 Traits Nice Guys Lack

  1. This is a good article, actually! This article brings up some very valid points. I went MGTOW several years ago, so I don’t have to worry about what women think of me since I don’t seek their attention or approval anyways! LOL!

    Keep up the good work, guys!

    Steven D. Timm

  2. Whatever, this guy been saying is real.. just got dumbed for a guy who doesn’t call her, forgive and comfort her when she is in pain. This is the Bible of men in relationships

  3. Article about being a bad boy who doesn’t put women on a pedestal… All tips are for impressing women.
    More like Fail Boy! Lol!

  4. Look after yourself first, live your life and live up to the standards you set for yourself. The only person you have to impress is the one in the mirror.. Go out with a woman only if she complements your life.. If she doesnt like you for who you are…. NEXT her.

  5. Hm. Good article, but this is a sure fire way to actually lose the woman of your dreams. See, we dont want the pushover guy but we also dont want the guy who is a complete arrogant asshole either. We want the guy that is balanced in his nice guy/bad boy dichotomy. We call these men THE GOOD ONES. The Good Ones know how to fuck the nail polish off our fingers AND apologize when they have offended us. The Good Ones know when to act selfishly and when to give us what we want. The Good Ones know when to be nice (in front of our friends, family, and anyone that is important to us) and when to be bad (when its the two of us and we are out running the fuck of the town.)
    Every guy has a nice guy and a bad boy in him. The key is finding that balance. Dont smack my ass in front of my parents, yet dont apologize for smacking my ass to hard while youre pounding me.

    Get it?

    • Everything here is sbout what the girl wants from the guy.. fuck that, be yourself and if she doesn’t like it, give her the hard “NEXT.”

    • 100% to what Belle says.

      I’m a woman and I know. We like men who are assertive and kind for long term romance. I’m dating a ‘bad boy’ and I like him for who he is, but having to educate him on how his behaviour signals disinterest or is hurtful at times. The look of surprise on his face, followed by, ‘But women like bad boys’, is always priceless.
      He’s learning though. Most women don’t like a push over, they want a rock. Someone dependable and kind, but also sexy. I want someone reliable to raise kids with, lol. Not some silly, sulky little boy.

      The fact that these men call themselves, ‘Boys’ speaks volumes.

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