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How to Become More Mature – Top 10 Fastest and Easiest Ways

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Becoming More Mature Makes Your Life Easier

Besides attracting women faster and easier, becoming more mature positively impacts every other area of your life – academics, career, social, emotional, relationship, etc. People respond to maturity better than they do immaturity, and in return, life becomes easier for you.

So, to help you grow up a little and feel better about yourself, here are 20 ways to become a more mature:

1. Accept Yourself, People, Situations, and Circumstances

how to become more mature accept yourself and others

Immature men refuse to accept themsleves the way they are. They refuse to their life, situations, and circumstances. If you suggest that MAYBE they can use some growing up a little, they respond with calling you an idiot and saying you don’t know what you’re talking about.

Maturity is accepting yourself, your circumstances, and everything else. Stop wasting time and energy trying to deny it, change it, or manipulate it.

To Become More Mature, Accept:

  • You have some growing up to do and you’re still thinking and behaving like a child in certain areas of your life.
  • There might be better, more effective, and more mature ways of doing the things you’re currently doing.
  • You haven’t figured it all out, you don’t know it all, and you’re, literally, unaware of what you don’t know and haven’t learned. What you think you know doesn’t compare to what you don’t know.

2. Get Your “Inner Child” Under Control

how to become more mature control your inner child

No matter how mature you become, a part of you will still want to behave in childish ways and make childish decisions. The difference between being mature and immature is how much you let your “inner child” run the show. Immaturity is letting the childish part of your brain be the boss and call the shots. Maturity is keeping the childish part of your brain in check.

The childish part of your brain never has good intentions and its purpose is to sabotage the results you’re getting.

Maturity is shutting down the childish part of your brain when it’s trying to take over. Maturity is, on a regular basis, choosing to make intelligent and responsible decisions.

3. Stop Wasting Time

how to become more mature stop wasting time

Notice I keep saying certain things are a “complete waste of time”? That’s because your time is just as important as your happiness. Your time is more important than money and other resources. Don’t waste it on useless people, activities, and thoughts and behavior.

Constantly ask yourself, “Is this worth my time?” Look at what’s happening in your life and decide if that thought, behavior, activity, or person is actually worth your time or if you could be using your time more wisely.

4. Improve Your Self-Control

Your life is the product of stopping what you’re doing and asking yourself, “Is this a wise decision? Will this decision impact my life negatively? What will be the long-term effects of what I’m about to do?”

Immature people are constantly broke, unhappy, full of regret, full of addictions, overweight, and headed in the wrong direction.

Self-Control is telling yourself “no” if a decision isn’t wise or will have a negative impact on their current situation. It isn’t fun and no matter how painful or boring it is, it’s a necessary tool to get and keep your life on the right track.

5. Embrace Self-Discipline

Self-discipline is not a form of punishment that takes the fun out of things. Self-discipline is a tool that trains you to move in the right direction and make the right decisions. Welcome it, see it as training, and see it as a necessity to the good life.

The easier and less painful option isn’t what moves you in the right direction and the easy route only takes you farther away from your goals and gets you into more trouble.

It’s impossible to get to where you want without self-discipline.

Going to bed at the right time, getting enough sleep, getting up early, avoiding laziness, avoiding unhealthy choices, eating better, and saying “no” to particular thoughts, behaviors, habits, and activities are not forms of punishment – they’re necessary training tools make you better, stronger, healthier, and more mature.

Develop a more mature mindset towards self-discipline and instead of placing a negative and “painful” frame around it, see it as a positive and constructive tool.

6. Set Goals, Work Hard, and Keep Moving Forward

how to become more mature work hard and accomplish goals

Lose the “I’m not sure yet” answer to everything. Stop waiting for the “right time”, never taking action, never getting results, and then blaming it on other people and circumstances.

See the goal and take action – even if it’s a horrible time.

Develop the “doing something now is better than not doing anything” mindset.

Making goals, taking action, and continuous movement forward is maturity.

7. Stop Reacting To Your Emotions

how to become more mature stop reacting to your emotionsWhen it’s crucial to keep a calm and clear mind, emotions cloud your judgement and cause you to make the wrong decisions. When you look back on your decisions during times of high emotion, you realize you didn’t make the best choice in that moment because you were distracted by your emotions.

Instead of stopping and thinking about what they’re doing, immature people feel emotions and ride them like a wave. They don’t see a problem with the extreme highs and lows and how leads to horrible results. The more you respond to your emotions without stopping to think about it first, the more you risk appearing unstable, untrustworthy, and immature.

Realize that emotions prevent you from thinking clearly.

There’s a very good reason Special Forces teams are taught to suppress, stifle, and bypass their emotions in times of intense stress. Their emotions will cloud their judgement and put everyone’s safety in jeopardy. They’re taught not to react to what they’re feeling and to let it pass before making a decision – a process that has proven effective and beneficial to saving the lives of thousands of men and women.

8. React Vs Respond – Learn The Difference

how to become more mature reacting vs responding

Responding is stopping to think about what you’re going to do before you do it and reacting is taking action as a result of a thought or emotions without stopping to consider if it’s wise or not.

Reacting bypasses thinking. Responding implements thinking before taking action.

When you’re immature, you freak out and “react” to everything. When you’re more mature, you “respond’ by processing and “filtering” all incoming information and comparing it to experience, training, and knowledge. You decide to do what you deem is the most appropriate in that situation ONLY after running through all the scenarios and pro’s and con’s in your mind. As a result, you make more mature decisions no matter what’s happening.

Immature decisions are made when they’re thoughtless “reactions” to problems and situations. Mature decisions are well-thought out “responses” to problems and situations.

Stop reacting and start responding. When things happen, don’t do anything until you think about it first.

9. Stop Complaining

how to become more mature stop complainingComplaining is uselessly pointing out problems and everything wrong with them instead of helping to come up with solutions to fix it.

Instead of bitching, whining, and complaining about what’s wrong in your life, your job, or certain situations, have solutions lined up before you ever open your mouth. If you can’t offer a solution to a problem, then just be quiet.

It’s pointless wasting time and energy complaining about what you can’t control or change.

When you’re tempted to complain, figure out if it’s within your control. If it isn’t, just deal with it and move on. If it is, then figure out possible solutions to it before you tell someone about it.

In the eBook and Audiobook Declare War on Yourself, this is called being “socially and verbally responsible”.

10. Always Remain Calm and Relaxed

how to become more mature stay calm no matter whatWhen you’re immature, you’re always on edge, freaked out, worried, and anxious. The more mature you are, the calmer and more relaxed you remain when experiencing any form of stress. You’re able to “keep it together” and remain composed.

Remaining calm consists of knowing how to control your emotions, pick your battles, not let anything get under your skin. It’s knowing how to respond instead of react.

To become more mature, work every single day on being as calm as you can be in all situations.

Conclusion

 

In a time where most people are getting poor results by thinking and behaving in childish and immature ways, you can easily set yourself apart from them by choosing to become more mature and make more mature decisions. You can easily avoid immature predicaments and life kicking you around.

Maturity isn’t the easiest or most fun route to take, but it’s definitely the most rewarding.

No more immature BS. It’s time to grow, change, and get better results.

Thanks for reading,

– Marc Summers

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19 Comments on “How to Become More Mature – Top 10 Fastest and Easiest Ways

  1. After reading this, I feel lighter. Just realised the immature emotions and sadness I been carrying..time to focus on whats really important. Thnaks marc

  2. I just want to say thank you. I’ve been struggling with my immaturity due to my un-motivation to try and the fact that I have ADHD making it harder for me to stop and think but with this, I believe if I come back every day and read this and begin applying it to my life I will see results.

    • You are very welcome, Jacob. Believe it or not, I have ADHD too. I’ve noticed that I don’t learn like everyone else. That even if I read or hear something 5 times, sometimes I’ll completely forget. So, for me, and like you’re doing, I have to read something many many times before it sticks. I think you’re doing the right thing. Save the article, read it every morning and every night, and before you know it, you’ll see your thinking and behavior change and you’ll be thinking and conducting yourself in a more mature way without even thinking about it. That’s what deliberate repetition does for you. The good thing about you having ADHD is I bet you’re stubborn as shit. This is good as long as you’re stubborn about the right things. Of course, bad, if you’re stubborn about useless and destructive things.

      If you haven’t read it, get this book: Declare War on Yourself

  3. this is beautifull indeed, it does sets everything straight and offers the right guidance towards being more mature in life…thank you..

  4. To the Point. Great article, Actually I was looking for a perfect article on this topic and got many web pages to read. But finally the search is over with this link.

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