Every Man Has Struggled With Women Not Calling or Texting Back
Every man has clicked with a woman he thought was awesome, exchanged numbers with her, and then, SURPRISINGLY, never heard from her again! It happens every day, every minute, and every second and sometimes can’t be avoided no matter what you do.
From my experience with this situation, I can help you figure out what’s happening when women quit answering, calling back, and returning texts.
When She Won’t Call or Text Back, It’s Confusing, Frustrating, and Annoying
It totally sucks when she’s not answering and calling or texting you back and instead of playing it totally cool, like we should, most of us freak out and lose our minds.
“What the f*ck! Did I do something wrong? Why the hell is this happening? Did I miss something? Am I not good enough? Am I overreacting? We start checking our phone more than normal and if we hear a sound, we pull it out of our pocket or run to it hoping it’s her calling or texting back! You know you’ve done it…
So when this happens, what’s really going on? It can be a real pain to figure out.
To help you, here are 21 reasons women have for not calling or texting back.
1. Life is Happening and Things are Changing for Her
Things come up, happen, and change in our lives that we don’t expect.
Sometimes women really do like you and, out of the blue, something makes her realize she needs to shift her priorities to more than just “guys” and dating. Things like health, family, kids, ex drama, career, death, loss of a friendship, etc. come up and she must shift her mind, thinking, and focus to deal with it.
It’s not that she forgets about you. It’s that she becomes so overwhelmed and involved in the situation that days and weeks can go by before she realizes she hasn’t called or texted.
2. She’s Actually Busy
From experience with women not calling or texting back, some women actually do have very busy lives and they don’t live with their cell phone in their hand.
Some women only take their cell phone out once or twice a day and they usually keep it on vibrate or silent so it doesn’t distract them from their busy schedule. They’ll return calls and reply to texts at the end of the day but they’re not in the habit of calling and texting 24/7. If you’re involved with someone like this, patience is key. She’ll be impressed when you don’t freak out and have intense reactions to it.
3. She Thinks You’re Boring
In How to Quit Being a Loser With Women, you’ll learn when I get her number, I don’t call or text unless she texts first OR I’m calling or texting to invite her out. I never call or text just to chat or make small talk. Since I don’t know her very well, I’m taking the chance of her getting bored and changing her mind about wanting to see or talk to me again.
This happens with TONS of men. They call or text too much, make boring small talk, and have nothing interesting to talk about with her. All she is thinking is, “Wow, this dude is turning out to be pretty lame.”
In turn, she gets bored and loses interest in calling or texting. When she ignores your calls and texts, she figures you’ll eventually get the hint and leave her alone.
4. She’s Losing Interest
Her chances of losing interest are very high if you don’t bring enough excitement to the table. You now have to compete with the games in her phone, Facebook, Instagram, etc.
That’s why, again, I don’t waste time texting, calling, and making small talk. I only call or text if I’m inviting her out and I’m going to see her face to face.
5. She Doesn’t Want to Talk to You
Noticing a common thread?
She’s ignoring your calls, texts, and CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSING not to text or call back.
You could think, “She’s an angel and there’s no way she’s mean or rude enough to be ignoring my calls…” BUT, you’d be wrong.
Most women don’t see ignoring calls and texts as mean or rude. They’re simply weeding out the weak and unattractive men.”
If you had 50 women calling and texting every single day and you only were interested in 1 or 2, you’d ignore most of the calls in order to manage your time. You’d figure the rest of the women you don’t like as much will get the hint.
6. She Talks to Other Men
No matter how great you think she is, you can bet your top dollar that, even if she’s single, she’s already talking to or sleeping with someone else.
It sounds terrible but this is the way many women operate.
She may find you attractive and interesting, BUT if you’re not captivating her attention and causing her to feel more attraction for you than the other guy(s) she’s already talking to, she’ll put you on the bottom of her list and forget about you.
She has to be, even more, excited about YOU than she is about the guys she’s already talking to.
If she’s not, you shouldn’t be expecting her to call and text you back like she is.
7. She Only Sees You as a Friend
There are a ton of reasons women friend zone guys but the main reason is always consistent – you didn’t make her feel enough attraction for her to WANT to call and text you back.
8. You Call and Text Too Often
Sometimes we don’t realize we’re calling or texting too much and once we do, it’s too late to do anything about it!
If you’re calling or texting too much, she’ll start ignoring your calls and messages and not returning them.
How much should you call or text women?
This eBook, Texting Titan!, teaches you EXACTLY how much you should and shouldn’t call and text her.
9. You Call / Text Too Much or Too Often
In Texting Titan!, you’ll learn it’s important to mirror her texts – if she texts only a few words, you text a few words back. If she texts a complete sentence, don’t text 3 paragraphs back. It creates an “imbalance” and overwhelms her. I communicates you’re way more excited to talk to her than she is to talk to you.
Appear to be as calm, cool, and laid back as she is.
Texting can be a game of chess – you have to carefully plan and execute your next text and anticipate how she’ll receive and respond to it before you send it.
10. You’re Getting Too Serious Too Fast
Some of us don’t know or understand how to smoothly, gradually, and gracefully take things from one level to the next with her. We like to shoot from the hip and take shortcuts.
Women are like cats and if you move too fast or make sudden movements she’s not expecting, she’ll run and hide under the couch for a week and only come out at night.
If you want her to continue calling and texting back, don’t start talking about your feelings, getting emotional, and asking her how she “feels” about you.
She’s looking to enjoy the process, not be cornered and put on the spot by it.
Conclusion – When She’s Truly Interested and You Have Her Attention, She’ll Call and Text NO MATTER WHAT
When she’s truly attracted and interested, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT is happening in her life, SHE WILL FIND THE TIME to get back to you.
When she isn’t calling or texting back, it’s best to accept the reality of the situation and give it a break, or move on. Don’t waste your time chasing women who aren’t interested.
If she asks you to stop calling and texting her, SHE USUALLY MEANS IT! If you don’t stop, it’s called stalking and it makes you a weird and creepy guy.
There’s millions and millions of single women all around the world and you’ll find one who takes the time to call and text you back. Especially if you work on becoming a better man every single day.
Thanks for reading,
– Marc Summers