Knowing She’s Cheating is One of the Worst Feelings Ever
I know what being cheated on feels like.
You feel betrayed when the woman you love has been with another guy and you get the ugliest feeling in the pit of your stomach just thinking about it.
I’ve walked in on it happening, found out through friends, found out through calls and text messages that I wasn’t supposed to see, and even had an ex-girlfriend tell me to my face months after we broke up that she was cheating on me while I was out of town.
Being cheated on is never a good feeling and it causes you to question everything about yourself – including your own life.
It makes you question your past actions, where your life is headed in terms of dating and relationships, and if you’ll ever be able to meet a great woman who is actually faithful and can resist temptation.
I wrote this article because when we get cheated on, we contemplate and wonder “why”.
Why did this happen?
What did I do wrong?
What is wrong with me as a person?
Why do I keep meeting the wrong women?
What was better about the other guy?
Why didn’t the woman I loved with all my heart and that I was loyal to show me the same courtesy in return?
The questions pile up and it’s hard to find answers.
This article is a compiled list of what I personally believe are the most common reasons that girlfriends and wives cheat on their boyfriends and husbands.
Cheating Is Too Common Nowadays
Statistics currently show 17% of marriages end in divorce because of infidelity and cheating.
Nearly 1 in 5.
If the numbers are that high in marriage, there’s an almost definite possibility the numbers are higher in basic relationships and engagements.
Another article called Facts and Statistics About Infidelity estimates that “roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage”.
Data presented by Dr. Atkins at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies shows that 44 years ago, in 1972, 12% of men and 7% of women admitted to cheating.
Fast forward to today, those numbers have quintupled on average.
I’m not telling you this to make you lose hope in having a relationship or marriage based on trust and loyalty.
I’m just informing you that cheating is on the rise and unfortunately becoming incredibly common.
There Are Two Sides to Every Story
When she cheats, the first instinct is to think that because our girlfriend or wife cheated, she must be a “slut”, “bitch”, “whore”, or a just a monster of a person.
But times and situations are becoming more complicated and it’s just not that simple or wise to jump to such a conclusion right away.
This article is not to bash women or make them the enemy or some kind of hostile threat to us as men.
We’re all human and we all make mistakes – but I’m also not defending cheating and cheaters.
I believe cheating is a horrible thing to do and it downgrades your character and your value as a person.
I believe it diminishes your spirit.
BUT, there are two sides to every story and a lot of women who would NEVER cheat in a million years are pushed to cheat because they’re not perfect and often finding themselves in incredibly stressful and complicated situations where there is “no way out”.
In fact, I’ve cheated once in my life when I kind of felt I had no other option.
When I was 19 or 20, I cheated on my girlfriend who I loved more than anything in the world.
Not because I’m a sick bastard, but because I was in a nightmare of a situation and couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I was in a verbally abusive relationship with a crazy woman who wouldn’t let me leave, yet she treated me like garbage.
While still in that relationship, I met a hot, sweet, and caring woman who made me feel “normal” again and I instantly dove right in it because it was the “relief” (no pun intended) I was needing.
It helped me keep my sanity.
Do I believe it was it wrong? Yes.
Do I feel bad about it? A little.
Would I do it again? Probably not.
BUT it happened and nothing anyone does can change that.
In today’s society, women find themselves in these exact situations with one guy after another because:
1. Few men are actually being raised to become real men and gentleman like the “old days”.
2. Few men are being raised to be respectful, loyal, and trustworthy.
3. Men are not being taught to understand the difference between the concepts of “right” and “wrong” and how their actions hurt people.
4. Women are making themselves MUCH EASIER to sleep with than ever before so there’s more temptation.
5. It’s now normal and no longer “taboo” to be promiscuous and have lots of sexual partners. Things like reality TV and today’s music do nothing but promote this behavior and “mindset”.
So what I’m saying is that women don’t have it any easier than us.
We’re dealing with crazier women, they’re dealing with crazier guys.
Our society is wilder and crazier now and the ideals and conservative “mindsets” we had in the 1800’s and even up until the 1960’s just don’t really exist anymore.
It’s my opinion that cheating and women being unfaithful is not always your fault, it’s not always HER fault, and it’s often a complicated mixture of events, scenarios, circumstances, and emotions that drive these actions.
Sometimes it IS your fault and sometimes it is HER fault.
But it’s not black and white.
There will always be lots of gray area.
Like I said, I don’t agree with cheating and I believe it’s wrong. But in some cases, I think depending on your perspective, it can be understandable.
So given my “infidelity theory”, here are 28 reasons I personally believe most women cheat and are unfaithful.
This list is from my own experience and what I’ve seen with my own eyes – not from what I’ve read on the internet, in books, or been told by people who know it all.
I’ve also had MANY woman open up to me and discuss their reasons for cheating and really go into detail as to their mindset and emotions while they were doing it.