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12 Reasons She Cheated

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Cheating Is Too Common Nowadays

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Statistics show 17% of marriages end in divorce because of infidelity and cheating. Nearly 1 in 5. If the numbers are that high in marriage, it’s definitely possible the numbers are higher in basic relationships.

Another article called Facts and Statistics About Infidelity estimates that “roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage”.

Data presented by Dr. Atkins at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies shows that 44 years ago, in 1972, 12% of men and 7% of women admitted to cheating. Fast forward to today, those numbers have quintupled.

This data isn’t to make you lose hope in having a relationship or marriage based on trust and loyalty. It’s to inform you that cheating is on the rise and, unfortunately, becoming incredibly common.

So, that being said, here are 12 reasons she might cheat:

1. You’re Abusive and You Mistreat Her

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When you’re putting your hands on her, beating her, choking her, slamming her against the wall, slapping her, pushing her, punching her, and physically abusing her, she’s more likely to cheat on you with someone who treats her better. She might be too afraid you’ll seriously hurt her or, even, kill her if she leaves for good, but if she has the chance to be around a guy who’s much nicer to her, she might take it.

Physical and verbal abuse is terrible and it leads to her feeling hopeless and timid like a dog who gets kicked all the time. When she’s feeling imprisoned, abused, and mistreated, she’s going to try to find a way out or a sense of relief from it all.

Getting her to stick by your side and not do anything to hurt you is pretty tough when you treat her like trash.

Many women in abusive relationships stick around because they’re constantly being challenged BUT, not all women are completely loyal to men who mistreat and abuse them.

Loyalty is not automatic – it’s earned.

You can’t expect her to be loyal and trustworthy and if they’re being mistreated and disrespected.

If she’s sick of you not treating her right, she’s more likely to cheat.


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2. You’re Too Jealous and Always Accusing Her of Cheating

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Women are more likely to cheat when you’re too jealous ALWAYS accusing them of cheating.

In the eBook and Audiobook How to Quit Being a Loser With Women, you’ll learn she’s less likely to cheat if you’re secure and encourage her to go out and have fun with her friends. She’s MORE likely to cheat when you’re insanely jealous and you don’t let her go anywhere because you don’t trust her.

It’s like if you tell a child NOT to run in the street, they’ll do it. But if you tell them to run into the street and get ran over, they’ll stay away from it.

Accusing her of cheating and being afraid she’ll cheat makes her more likely to do it.

3. She Can’t Get Away From You

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When she wants to leave, tells you it’s over, but you simply won’t give up or let go, she’s more likely to cheat on purpose and find someone else.

When she says it’s over, let her go. Don’t try to hold on or beg her like a little girl. Be a man about it, suck it up, and let her and the relationship go.

Yes, it’s hard but it’s usually best for the situation.

She’s less likely to cheat and more willing to trying again if you don’t hold her back from what she wants to do.

The more you pull back on a rubber band, the farther it flies. If you keep pulling back, she’s going to build up so much energy trying to get away from you that she’ll run as far away as possible and never come back. But if you say, “Ok. I understand and I respect your wishes.”, she’s more likely to think, “Am I making a mistake?”

Holding on and forcing her to stay in a relationship or marriage that she doesn’t want ruins everything and leads her to cheat on you.

4. You Make Her Feel Unwanted, Unappreciated, and Unattractive

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Staring at other women, putting her down, not acknowledging her efforts or accomplishments, and telling her she looks ugly makes it more likely she’ll find someone who does the opposite and makes her feel better about herself.

She wants to feel special WITH YOU, know you want her, appreciate her, and find her attractive. She needs it from you as much as you need it from her.

When you’re not making her feel loved and another man shows up and makes her feel like the most beautiful and wonderful woman in the world, she’ll be swept off of her feet and VERY attracted to him. He’ll seem MUCH MORE appealing than you do. Emotions will overcome her, make her feel good, and she’s more likely make the emotional decision to cheat because of how he makes her feel.

5. She Feels the Relationship or Marriage Is Over

Sometimes relationships take their course and nothing can be done about it. The attraction, love, and happiness is simply gone and she’s ready to move on.

When she feels the relationship or marriage is “over”, she’s more likely to cheat and less likely to feel guilt, remorse, or shame for cheating. She’s going to move on to something that makes her “feel” feel alive and in love again.

In the eBook and Audiobook How Attracting Women Really Works you’ll learn that, for the attraction to remain alive, women NEED to “feel” emotions with you. When things become dull and she no longer gets flooded with emotions around you, she loses all interest in being with you.


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6. You Don’t Turn Her On Anymore

When you’ve lost your ability to turn her on and make her “feel” attraction, she’s more likely to cheat with someone who DOES turn her on.

The relationships and marriages that last usually do because the man doesn’t become dull, boring, or unattractive.

He takes care of himself, remains sharp, keeps her on her toes, keeps her guessing, and keeps her feeling a lot of emotions.

7. You Let Yourself Go

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It’s also possible she cheated because she’s no longer physically attracted you. You’ve gained weight, quit taking care of yourself, let your hygiene go down the drain, and she simply can’t deal with it.

Just because you have “someone” who loves you doesn’t mean you can just stop taking care of yourself and striving to look your best.

Just because she loves you doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about being physically attracted to you anymore. Especially if she takes great care of herself.

In marriages and relationships that last and don’t see cheating, both partners are healthy and take care of themselves.

She’s less likely to cheat when you do your best to don’t let yourself go.

8. You Became Boring and Lame

Boring turns ANYONE off and makes them not want to be around you.

When you become boring, dull, and predictable, she’s more likely to cheat because she’ll no longer feel the “excitement”. She won’t “feel” like she’s having fun with you. She’ll lose the excitement of spending the next 10 years, 20 years, or even the rest of her life with you.

She’s thinking of how fun you used to be and how to get out of the relationship if it doesn’t improve.

OR she’ll stay with you so you don’t get hurt, but at the same time, cheating on you with someone who IS fun and exciting.


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9. She’s Selfish, Mean, Immature and Lacks Self-Control

When women are immature and unable to say “no” because their “inner child” is running the show, they’re more likely to cheat.

Maturity is crucial in having your act together, being disciplined, controlling yourself, and delaying gratification to avoid disastrous results and consequences.

But some women just never grow up and learn to be responsible because they never have to clean up the mess that they make with their actions, they’re never told how much damage they’re causing with their reckless behavior and their mommy and daddy have never held them accountable for any of their actions. Consequently, they never developed a well-rounded and mature conscience when it comes to being faithful and not cheating. When she never learned to be responsible, accountable, and remorseful for anything in her life, she’s very likely to cheat. She’s just a messed up person.

10. She Has a Sex Addiction

Sex Addiction is real and there are treatment centers, medication, and support groups for sex addicts.

According to this article called Can Women Be Sex Addicts?, 8 – 12% of women suffer from sexual addiction. A lot of it is due to early sexual abuse, the prevalence of pornography and masturbation, or from a disorder.

The chances of her cheating skyrocket when she’s a sex addict because, more often than not, she can’t get enough to keep her happy.

Cheating is the only thing that gets her an extra “hit” of what she wants and needs.

RESOURCES:

39 Shocking Sexual Addiction Recovery Statistics

Sexual Addiction Causes, Statistics, Addiction Signs, Symptoms & Side Effects

11. She’s Using You

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Your girlfriend or wife using you for a better life happens more often than you think.

Women stay with men they don’t really want to be with for A LOT of reasons:

  • Money
  • Stability
  • Access to people and places
  • A nice home
  • Attention
  • Status
  • Security and resources like health insurance
  • The title of “girlfriend” or “wife”

Why be single when she can use to get what she wants and needs, have sex with you once in a while, and just cheat on you the rest of the time?

Women use men because they’re programmed to seek resources and a higher quality of life.

She has her resources, shelter, and ability to live her life WITH YOU and if she doesn’t have the sex life she wants with you, she’ll just cheat. She’s not going to throw everything else away because she wants to do the “right thing”.

Of course, this isn’t ALL women. Only the ones who use men to get what they want and then cheat on them.


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12. You Just Don’t Make Her Happy Anymore

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And last, she just simply isn’t happy with you anymore. She tried, gave it all she had, and it’s just not working. SHE WANTS to be happy with you but something isn’t making her happy anymore and she wants to run away as far as she can.

This tends to happen when she’s no longer feeling the attraction and emotion that she felt when she first met you. She’s no longer being flooded with chemicals that make her feel really good.

Some women fall in love and get attached too fast and when the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship is over, they’re bored and no longer want to be in it. They’re addicted to “falling in love” rather than being in a relationship, maintaining it, and making it work for the long haul.

It’s a cycle that’s only becoming too common. When she’s no longer getting the rush of chemicals from “falling in love”, she’s likely to cheat to get those feelings back. This time, it’s just with someone else.

Thanks for reading,

– Marc Summers


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1 Comment on “12 Reasons She Cheated

  1. Awesome man….the best articles…so what we cant do…?do y have an article.,?how to hand the cheating?yelling or stay wise and tell her that it’s over?

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