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12 Reasons Women Say You’re a Loser

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Women Say You’re a Loser Because of What You’re Doing

When women say you’re a loser, they don’t mean for it to be entertainment or funny. They mean that what you’re doing is so unattractive that you don’t stand a chance with them. That what you’re doing is repulsive. It has nothing to do with your looks, race, looks, etc. 99% of the time, it’s because of your MINDSET or what you’re DOING wrong. It’s because you’re behaving in an incongruent and unattractive way.

Here are 12 behaviors that repulse women and make them say you’re a loser:

1. You Pretend to Be Someone You’re Not

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Women instantly KNOW when you’re not being yourself. They clearly see when you’re not accepting yourself and you’re pretending to be someone you’re not. In their opinion, it’s what “losers” do. What you’re communicating about who you are doesn’t line up with what they see when they look at you.

One of the most powerful things you can do to get women to quit thinking you’re a loser is to look yourself in mirror and start accepting yourself for who you are. Whatever you haven’t been accepting, RIGHT NOW is the time to make it right. Think about everything you’ve been denying and decide to end the nonsense… NOW.

Then, one day and one step at a time, move your life in the direction you want it to go so you can become the person you, ultimately, want to be and you won’t have to fake it.

If you’re not there yet, don’t pretend and try to fool others into thinking you’re already there.

2. You’re Too Nice and Approval Seeking

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Most women don’t freely admit it, but they secretly think you’re a loser when you’re way too nice and you care too much about their approval. They try to be polite and may string you along, but they get to the point where it becomes so annoying that they can’t take it anymore. So what they’ll do is stop calling and texting back and hanging out with you until you get the point.


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3. You Let Women Use You

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Giving women money, or even buying them gifts, just to get approval and attention is a surefire way to get them to see you as a loser.

When you let women use you, you’re communicating you have no respect for yourself and no standards on how people treat you.

Do you really know what women think of you when they’re able to extract money from you and use you to pay their bills and buy them drinks? They think, “Man, what a loser. That was easy. I just pretend I like him, act sweet, nice, and interested, and he’ll give me whatever I want! What a dumbass! Now that I have a few dollars, me and the guy I’m actually attracted to can go out and spend it.”

Women who use men say, “I need some money. Let me call this guy, meet up with him for a few minutes, act like I’m into him, make up an excuse why I gotta go, and he’ll give me whatever I want because he really likes me a lot.”

If you’re THAT GUY that she’s talking about, she thinks you’re a loser. She just knows you’re a TOOL,she can use you all she wants to, and you won’t stop it from happening.

4. You’re Desperate and Needy Around Women

In the eBook and Audiobook How to Quit Being a Loser With Women you’ll learn how important it is to be single and happy FIRST before you jump into a relationship.

If you’re not happy being single and you have a weak and pathetic mindset that you’re not addressing and handling, then you bring that weakness into the relationship and she has to deal with it too. When she sees your desperateness, neediness, and weakness, she’s going to think, “There’s no way I’m doing this” and she’s going to vanish.

Women don’t want the guy who’s sad, depressed, lonely, and lame when he’s single. There’s nothing attractive about it. It’s repulsive and makes her think you’re a loser.

5. You’re Obsessed with Sex

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If you’re all about getting laid and all you think about is sex, it’s going to affect your dating life. Especially when it’s written all over your face every time you talk to women. It makes them think you’re a loser and weird pervert.

The guys who get laid the most are the ones who DON’T obsess over sex.

When you obsess over sex and getting laid, it makes women very uncomfortable and the last thing they’re thinking about is having sex with you. BUT, if you’re just laid back and “whatever” about it, they’ll feel more comfortable being around you

Don’t be the loser who only cares about sex and spends every minute of every day chasing it. It won’t get you anywhere.

6. You Worship Women

David Deangelo says in his program 77 Laws of Success With Women and Dating, “I’ll let you walk all over me and I’ll give you all my money, time, and self-worth in order to get some love, affection, and approval in return.” He’s describing the mindset of loser men who worship women and put them on a pedestal.

Never put your own interests and values on the back burner just to get attention and approval from women. Women don’t like it, don’t want it, and aren’t attracted to men who consistently make women more important than themselves.

They want you to value yourself and your time and not sacrifice it for anyone or anything.


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7. You’re Too Weak to Handle Rejection

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When women reject you and you handle it like a child, they’ll automatically think, “Dude, what a loser!”

Everyone gets rejected. Take it in stride. Don’t let it knock you off base, make you sad or angry, and, definitely, don’t get immature about it. Just deal with it and move on. Don’t make it about yourself. It’s a part of life.

Just because it happens doesn’t make it the end of the world and you should never act like it is.

8. You’re Extremely Boring

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Women think you’re a boring “loser” if you’re:

  • Always shy, uptight, nervous, and jumpy
  • Letting women waste your time and mistreat you
  • Too afraid to try new things
  • Nice no matter what she says or does
  • Always giving her what she wants when she wants it
  • Constantly tell women everything about yourself
  • Letting everything bother you and get under your skin
  • Treating her like a princess and putting her on a pedestal
  • Too “good” and soft around the edges
  • Convinced bad boys and “jerks” are actually “bad guys”
  • Too afraid to get physical with her
  • Convinced making sexual jokes is inappropriate no matter what

Women NEED a excitement, fun, and humor. They need unpredictability. They need you to relax and go with the flow.

Resources on how to stop being boring so women won’t think you’re a loser:

 

9. You’re A Liar

Women are in their right to call you a loser if you’re constantly lying to get approval or avoid trouble. They see you as a valueless, weak, and scared weasel of a man and can’t understand the reasons behind your need to lie so much.

Live up to your standards, ethics, and morals you have set for yourself. If you don’t have any, start working on developing them.

10. You’re Too Wimpy and Emotional

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Your inability to “man up” and control your emotions gets you seen as a loser.

When you’re reacting to everything and allowing small things to get under your skin, bother you, and affect your mood, she’s going to believe you’re too weak to be with her. That if ever in a dangerous situation, you’d lack the mental strength and intelligence to keep her safe. When you’re constantly freaking out, being immature, and getting bent out of shape over things that don’t matter, when something big happens, there’s a very high chance you’re going to respond inappropriately to the situation.

If you don’t women saying and thinking you’re a loser, start keeping it together AT ALL TIMES.


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11. You Won’t Shut Up

Telling her too much, too soon is the wrong thing to do. She doesn’t want to know everything about you within the first hour of knowing you. Women prefer to learn a little a time and figure you out and learn about you as time goes on. They want to “wonder” about the things you don’t tell them. They want the mystery and the unknown.

Selling yourself way too fast communicates you’re desperate for attention and approval.

If they don’t ask, don’t tell. Not because you have anything to hide, but because it’s not that important and it doesn’t matter. Even if women do ask, there’s no need to answer directly. Make it a little exciting.

12. You Have No Goals and Priorities

When most people hear “loser”, they think of someone who is just WASTING their life away doing NOTHING.

If you’ve worked hard and created a lot of success for yourself, you’ve earned your right to do nothing if you choose to. The bills are still paid, you have money, and most of your worries and problems are handled.

But if you aren’t there yet and still doing nothing with your time and life, you can’t blame women for thinking you’re a loser. You’re focusing on what doesn’t matter and you’re not thinking about what actually does!

Women find a man with a lot of goals, ambitions, plans, and is on his “path” sexy and attractive. He’s more appealing, exciting, and “winning” in life.

A man without a path or goal in life, in the long run, is completely useless.

Thanks for reading,

– Marc


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3 Comments on “12 Reasons Women Say You’re a Loser

  1. Wow reading this as a woman was so weird. If you stop looking for a girl and just live your own life you’ll probably find someone.

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