Many Women Play Games at One Point or Another
Women claim to hate when guys play games, but then most, at one time or another, play games with guys they’re talking to.
When you’re noticing “red flags”, things not adding up, and everything seems to be “off”, that’s when you pull back or move on. Never waste time on women who aren’t serious. If handled correctly, her game playing will be more of a “test” and she’ll feel more attraction. If handled wrong, any chance of her ever seeing you as more than a friend will be destroyed.
Women’s Actions Never Lie
Listen to her actions more than her words.
Talk is cheap and most of us are, unintentionally, full of it. Especially today. Most of our behavior isn’t aligned with what comes out of our mouth. We use words to paint ourselves in a particular light but then we don’t back it up with actions. Because of this, it’s easier for women to fill your head with wonderful things about themselves than it is for them to prove they’re actually that person.
PLACE MORE FOCUS ON WHAT SHE DOES rather than what she says. She can bullshit you with words, but not with actions.
No matter how much you like her, how pretty you think she is, or how much you THINK she likes you, you have to put your feelings to the side and pay attention to what she’s doing – not what she’s’ saying. Her actions tell the real story.
Smart men watch what’s going on and judge by what they see rather than what they hear.
Beautiful women easily bullshit one gullible guy after another and they’ll automatically assume they can fool you too.
Don’t Be Afraid to Tell Her How It Is, Hurt Her Feelings, and Walk Away
When women are playing games, most men become afraid, full of emotions, and they let their emotions and desire for her get in the way of what they have to do in order to protect their happiness, sanity, and self-respect. Regardless of how amazing you think she is, if she’s being childish, disrespectful, playing games, and mistreating you, don’t be afraid to put your emotions away, call her out on it, speak your mind, and walk away.
If she gets her feelings hurt and thinks you’re a jerk or “asshole”, no big deal. She’ll get over it. Hurting her feelings is not as “bad” as you think it is. Most of the time, it’s the wake up call she needs to grow up and quit playing games.
It’s MUCH BETTER to hurt her feelings, call her out on her behavior, and risk her never talking to you again than it is to be the gullible, nice guy, and fool she thinks you are.
She’s more attracted to the jerk who isn’t afraid hurt her feelings than she is to the guy who’s too nice.
Let’s get to it. Here are 11 signs she’s playing games and wasting your time:
1. She Never Calls or Texts First
When you’re texting and calling first and she never takes the initiative to be the first to text or call, you’re wasting your time. You’re allowing her to treat you in a way that is less than you deserve. Just because she texts back or answers when you call doesn’t mean you have to be OK with it.
When she KNOWS she doesn’t have to make an effort because you’re going to keep calling and texting first, it strokes her ego and makes her feel better about herself.
In Texting Titan! 120 Tips for Texting Women, you’ll learn the 50/50 rule – you make 50% of the effort and expect her to make the other 50%. When she’s not making 50% after you do your 50%, stop texting her and wait until she does her part. If she doesn’t, you can walk away knowing she’s a waste of your time. If you’re making 75% effort and she’s only making 25%, it’s unfair you’re being too much of a nice guy.
If she never calls or texts first and you keep allowing it, you’re putting yourself deeper and deeper into the friend zone.
2. She Takes Forever Call and Text Back
If you call or text and she ALWAYS takes hours to get back to you, and you know she isn’t insanely busy, then you, obviously, aren’t important to her – especially if her phone is always glued to her hand. When you sense you’re not a priority, call and text less often or just stop contacting her. If you mean anything to her at all, it’ll catch her attention and she’ll move you up on her priority list.
3. She Only Calls and Texts When She Needs a Favor
Women “use” guys for drinks, rides, and “help” with things they can do themselves. Once you’ve helped them, they magically disappear.
You may think helping her out is the “nice” thing to do, but you have be smart enough to recognize when “helping her” becomes a pattern, you’re getting nothing in return, and she says things like, “Aww you’re so sweet and such a great friend!”
Women charm you, hug you, use their “princess voice”, tell you how much you mean to them, and pull the vail over your eyes so you don’t notice they’re using you. Some women don’t even carry money with them because they know they can talk some guy into buying them whatever they want.
Don’t be a sucker. OPEN YOUR EYES AND PAY ATTENTION.
4. She Keeps Cancelling Plans and Dates
When women are actually interested, they don’t break plans. If she’s cancelling but keeps agreeing to go out, she’s playing games and wasting your time.
If she cancels more than 2 times, just tell her you’re no longer interested – it’ll get her attention very fast.
Stop with the “Ok, that’s fine.”, “No problem”, and “I understand…” responses when she keeps cancelling. Have some respect for yourself and tolerate anyone wasting your time.
5. She Chooses Her Girlfriends Over You
When you’re low-priority in her life and ALWAYS choose her girlfriends over you, she’s playing games.
Once in a while, it’s no big deal. It’s good to let her have fun with her friends without being a control freak, feeling left out, and feeling like you need to be part of the fun. Encourage her to go out and have a girls night. But if you’ve known her for a while and she’s choosing her girlfriends over you more than 50% of the time, then you need to confront the problem or walk away.
6. She Acts Different Towards You Around Others
The minute she starts changing her personality or how she treats you when others are around, that’s when it’s time to make your exit.
WHY she’s acting different doesn’t matter – seeming embarrassed or like she’s hiding something is enough to know she’s wasting your time and playing games.
7. She Says You’re Just Her “Friend”
When she pulls the “we’re just friends” nonsense, that’s when it’s time to shut down your feelings and emotions for her. It’s clear she’s not into you the way you’re into her. Start seeing other women and if she has a problem with it, tell her, “But we’re just ‘friends’, remember?”
Don’t play the “friends” game with anyone. Don’t allow women to friend zone you.
8. She Always Needs “Time”
When she acts interested but always refuses to advance the relationship because she needs “time”, give her all the time she wants – meaning that you’re not going to waste your time “waiting” for her.
Simply tell her, “Take all the time you need. I’ll be over here dating these other women until you can learn how to make decisions like a grown up.”
9. She’s Always Busy
When she’s always too busy for you, the solution is very simple – you’re, all of a sudden, too busy for her as well. Two can play that game. If you’re not worth her time, she’s not worth YOUR time. Don’t make it complicated.
She says, “I’m sorry. I can’t. I’m just very busy.” and you reply with, “OK. That works perfect. I’m too busy for people who are too busy for me.”
10. She Won’t Take Pictures with You
She’s either embarrassed to be seen with you or there’s some guy she doesn’t want seeing your pictures with her. Awesome stuff.
If she’s on the FBI’s Top 10 list, it’d make more sense. But if she’s not, then she’s simply playing games and hiding something.
Conclusion: Respect Yourself Enough to Not Tolerate Games and Nonsense
When she’s playing games and you’ve had enough, you shouldn’t have to spell it out for her. If she’s smart enough to know how to play games, she’s smart enough to see the obvious signs that you’ve figured out what she’s doing.
When you stop calling, texting, and seeing her, your ACTIONS should communicate, loud and clear, that you’re not as dumb as other guys, you’re not cool with it, and she’s wasting your time.
Thanks for reading,
– Marc Summers