10 Ways You’re Still Acting Like a Boy Instead of a Real Man
Mature Men Are Going Extinct
In the 1930’s, 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s, Clark Gable, Cary Grant, Humphrey Bogart, Marlon Brando, James Cagney, Gary Cooper, James Dean, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, and A LOT of other masculine and mature guys were viewed as REAL MEN. Men wanted to be like them and women wanted to be WITH THEM!
The number of mature and real men over the last 20, 30, and even, 40 years has severely declined.
Real and mature men are quickly becoming endangered.
Luckily, the few real and mature men left have more options with the women they like and want.
The “Pussification” of Today’s Men
EVERYONE is starting to see The “Pussification” of men. More men are growing up without their masculinity and dominance. They’re turning into big pussies, wimps, and pansies. When they reach adulthood, they’re acting more immature, weaker, and more feminine. Our modern society is producing men that are mentally, emotionally, and physically WEAKER than in the past.
In today’s schools, boys don’t have to exercise in P.E. if they don’t want to – something that wasn’t an option for older generations. If you were told to run half a mile, YOU RAN half a mile! Parents weren’t writing letters to the school demanding that the exercise was “too much” and “too stressful” on their children.
Today’s boys are also more sheltered than ever before.
They stay inside all day on their cellphone – which they’re too young to responsibly have, watching TV, playing video games, and surfing the internet instead of going outside and playing with other kids.
More and more men, who are still immature boys, are irresponsibly getting women pregnant and being responsible for their children. They’re abandoning the responsibility of parenthood. As a result, more and more boys are being raised by their mothers and not learning from their fathers how to become real men. There is no masculine father figure to set the example.
A lot of women say “he doesn’t need a father” – but this isn’t the best mindset to have. A boy can’t learn EVERYTHING he needs to know about being a real man from his mother – unless his mother is UFC’s Cyborg. Yes he CAN learn a lot from his mother, but nothing replaces an actual masculine man teaching his boy about maturity and manhood – just like a father can’t teach his daughter EVERYTHING about being a woman.
Rite of Passage
Most countries have a “rite of passage” – a tradition passed down since the dawn of civilization.
In the ritual, the boy must pass a test, sometimes extremely painful or difficult, in order to become a man. He has to “pass” for his “right” to become a man. Hence the term, “rite of passage”. If he passes, he is now considered and looked up to as a man. Some countries even give the boy a spear and make him survive out in the wilderness and kill lions!
In western civilization, these traditions are pretty much extinct.
There are no tests boys must pass to prove they’re a man.
Boys are no longer required to prove they’re emotionally, mentally, and physically strong enough to take on the world and survive without their mom’s help.
Rite of Passage – The Emerald Forest is a good movie to watch.
From the lack of a rite of passage, when these boys reach 18 and it’s time to take on the REAL WORLD, they’re, not surprisingly, unable to handle the physical, mental, and emotional stress and they choose to run back home to mommy – and live with them until they’re 37 years old.
Parents were even trying to get the U.S. Army to start issuing STRESS CARDS. If an instructor is putting too much stress on a trainee or “private”, the trainee can pull a stress card out and the drill instructor has to take it easy. They should call them “Wussy Cards”.
As a result, more and more men are immature boys trapped inside of men’s bodies and most of them are completely unaware of it. They think they’re real men because they physically look like a man and they have no clue what real maturity is or even looks like.
Physically Being A Man Doesn’t Make You Mature and a Real Man
When we hit puberty, we change PHYSICALLY. Our bodies grow, we grow hair in different places, our voices deepen, our muscles grow and get more toned, our genitals get bigger, etc. We develop all of the physical signs of being a mature man, BUT we all don’t MENTALLY become a real man.
Ultimately, mindset is what seperates real men from immature boys.
Your body doesn’t matter when it comes to being a REAL MAN. Some men are physically masculine and BIG guys – but when you get to know them, they’re immature little boys who haven’t grown up mentally. Other guys don’t look like they’re finished going through puberty BUT when speak to them and get to know them, you would think they’re 10 feet tall and lead armies of men. They’re not physically big, scary men, but mentally, they’re big scary men. Mentally, they’re mature, REAL MEN.
Here are 10 things keeping you immature and holding YOU back from being a real man:
1. Not Accepting Responsibility
Responsibility is huge.
When we make a mistake or we’re not being responsible, we’re supposed to own up to it. We’re supposed to raise our hand and be say, “Hey guys that’s me. I own that. It’s my fault.”
Most immature guys don’t accept responsibility. When they’re screwing up and making mistakes, make excuses and blame other people and circumstances.
Immature men do not take responsibility for their actions and life. They’re still:
Immature men are not holding themselves accountable for:
Immature men blame every person, circumstance, and situation rather than blaming themselves.
Real men take responsibility for EVERYTHING. The pain associated with admitting fault and accepting responsibility is TOO MUCH for immature men to handle.
The term “Man Up” exists for a reason.
Accept responsibility for where you’re at in life RIGHT NOW whether it’s good or bad. It’s your own fault -not your parent’s, sibling’s, friend’s, boss’, or teacher’s fault. You’ve had many chances just like everyone else to shape up and get your act together.
Real men accept responsibility for their conduct and decisions and how they feel, behave, think, respond, and treat people.
2. Mismanaging Conflict, Friction, and Circumstances
Immature men complain, bitch, whine, moan, gripe, cry, and seek pity for everything happening inside and around them.
Complaining, bitching, whining, moaning, griping, crying, and seeking pity isn’t the “mature” thing to do when conflict and friction arises. It’s not how real men handle situations.
Instead of saying, “You know what? This sucks but I’m going to MAN UP and deal with this situation without complaining, bitching, whining, and seeking pity for it”, immature men choose to act like a victim and be victimized by it.
Check out this immature guy freaking out because his dad wants him to put the video games down and get a job:
And this guy who loses his mind when his mom cancels his World of Warcraft account:
Real men don’t respond this way. Only immature men do.
Crying and complaining about things beyond your control doesn’t change ANYTHING or benefit you in any way. Real men understand the victim mindset doesn’t change the situation and so he deals with it.
Here’s an immature guy crying ON CAMERA because his girlfriend left him:
3. Too Concerned with Impressing Others
When we’re still a kid, we want to impress our parents and friends all of the time. But when we grow up, that mindset is supposed to go away.
And thanks to Facebook, bragging and wanting to impress everyone is completely out of hand. Immature men’s self-esteem, confidence levels, self-images, and self-awareness rely on looking good to others.
Real men aren’t concerned with impressing others and don’t care what people think.
4. Poor Reputation and Image
Your reputation is your social resume. It’s what others say and know about your character. It’s the “word on the street”. Men have reputations at work, on the street, in prison, and everywhere they go. Your reputation can get you promoted, fired, banished, and even killed.
Immature men are completely unaware of their reputation and their impact on people and situations. They have the, “I don’t give a f*ck what people think!” mindset and they do idiotic, “socially unacceptable”, and destructive things that put them in very bad situations.
Real men are aware of how their actions affect their reputation. Immature men use, “I don’t give a f*ck” as an excuse to act ignorant, foolish, and uneducated.
If you have “haters” and people who avoid you because you’re acting like a moron and embarrassing yourself, you SHOULD CARE about your reputation and what others think. You should have pride, integrity, and know how to conduct yourself in public and private.
When you know something can come back to haunt you, your reputation is telling you to be smart.
When you do something good, 10 people will hear about it. If you do something really dumb, 100 people will hear about it. Not good for business.
You will have haters, downers, and nay-sayers everywhere you go but if you get criticism for “not giving a f*ck”, then you’re bringing it on yourself.
5. Seeking Approval and Validation
Some of the manliest and most masculine men don’t have the “kiss ass” feature inside of them turned off and they turn into the most pathetic approval-seeking men the second a pretty girl appears.
Real men don’t turn into anxious and giddy wussies around women. They don’t need approval and validation from women, friends, family, etc.
Real men make sure all of their needs are met mentally, emotionally, and physically and that they’re giving themselves approval.
6. Wannabe Tough Guy
A lot of immature men try proving they’re tough and strong by lifting more weight than their body can handle. Every part of their body is moving and doing the work EXCEPT for the actual muscle group they’re trying to work! They’re struggling, grunting, and bringing negative attention to themselves.
Immature men pretend to be someone they’re not.
They try to be more macho, masculine, and more dominant than they actually are! They’re still boys pretending to be grown, dominant, masculine, and mature men.
Real men don’t need to:
None of this is necessary to prove you’re a real man!
7. Lacking Respect For Yourself and Others
Immature men lack respect for themselves, women, and others. They say and do things that are abusive and they try to control women out of insecurity.
Real men are secure and confident and don’t try to bully and control women and others.
8. Low Standards
Real men’s high standards are the reason they treat themselves and others with respect.
Mature men have clear standards on:
Immature men have much lower standards.
Define your standards. Set the bar high. Those who want to be part of your life will make the effort to meet your standards. Be clear on what IS and isn’t acceptable and live your life by it.
9. Poor Social Skills
Immature men lack social discipline. They brag, show off, and lack class. Unaware of how they look and sound in social interactions, they lack manners, interrupt, and don’t focus on listening. Instead, they focus on what to say next instead of understanding what they’re being told. They talk more than necessary, use more words than necessary, and respond without thinking.
No matter how great their life is, mature men avoid bragging and anything and any other bad social habits that make them seem like a douche bag. When others speak, they listen and give them an opportunity to feel understood. When responding, they pause, think about their response, and then carefully assemble their words. They understand verbal, body, and written language and make an effort to become better at interacting with others.
10. Poor Self-Discipline and Self-Control
Immature men avoid work and are only motivated to do what’s fun. They don’t discipline themselves to get the results they want.
They don’t tell themselves “no” or make themselves do things that are tough and boring, yet beneficial – like working out, going to bed on time, getting up early, saving money, eating healthy, and getting their act together.
When enough is enough, they don’t know how or when to stop gambling, drinking, partying, slacking off, eating, playing video games, watching tv, etc.
Real men are about self-discipline and self-control. They know how to say “no” do what’s necessary for a better life. They aren’t victimized by a lack of self-control.
Mature men control of their life and everything in it.
Bonus: Real Men Chase and Get What They Want
Immature men dream, wish, and hope their life will improve. They imagine doing they really want, BUT THEY NEVER TAKE ACTION! They say, “That sure would be nice” but fail to take steps in the right direction.
Real men don’t have the time to dream, wish, and hope because they’re too busy making it happen! Every. Single. Day!
Real men get what they want whether it’s a job, career, car, house, woman, etc. If they want it bad enough and it’s worth getting, they do whatever it takes to make it happen. They figure out what needs to happen, create a plan, execute, and get what they want. They stop at nothing to get the life they want and deserve.
If you spend your time watching TV, playing video games, and doing other low-value activities, it’s time for it to stop. Figure out what you want, make a plan, execute the plan, and turn your life around.
Too many old men, WHO WERE JUST LIKE YOU, say, “I wish I would have” instead of being able to say “I’m glad I did what I had to do to make it happen.”
Real men don’t screw around. They handle their business, have their life in order, know what they do and don’t want, and live their lives by rules, principles, and standards. They don’t waste time playing dumb games with themselves and other people.
Mature men get things done and move their life in the direction they want it to go. Start doing the same.
Thanks for reading,
– Marc Summers