Real and Mature Men Are Rare and Going Extinct
I’m going to turn it up a notch on this article because this is a subject/topic that is near and dear to me and I’m passionate about it.
Here’s my take on the issue:
Back in the 1930’s, 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s, we looked at Clark Gable, Cary Grant, Humphrey Bogart, Marlon Brando, James Cagney, Gary Cooper, James Dean, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, and A LOT of other masculine and mature guys as REAL MEN.
Men wanted to be like them and women wanted to be WITH THEM!
This is just my opinion, but the number of mature and real men over the last 20, 30, even 40 years has been on a SEVERE decline. The number of real and mature men left in the world today is so low that it’s plain PITIFUL.
Luckily, the few real and mature men that ARE left have more of a choice in which women they want. (More on that later)
The “Pussification” of Today’s Men
There’s a term that’s come up fairly recently called The “Pussification” of America and I believe more and more people are starting to see it.
Basically, it means that more and more men are growing up to be big pussies, wimps, and pansies. When they come of age, they’re acting more immature, less tough, and more feminine – in a sense.
But I don’t believe it’s only America, but many other countries as well!
Society is turning out men that are mentally, emotionally, and physically WEAKER than in the past.
In many schools today, boys don’t have to participate in Physical Education if they don’t want to – something that wasn’t an option when I was growing up. (READ ABOUT IT HERE) If they wanted us to run half a mile, WE RAN half a mile! Parents weren’t writing letters to the school demanding that the physical exercise was “too much” and stressing out their children.
Also, today’s boys are now more sheltered and they stay inside all day watching TV, playing video games, or surfing the internet instead of going outside and playing like I did growing up.
Men, who are still immature mentally, are having children and not sticking around to raise them. They’re taking off and abandoning the responsibility. This is a BIG problem in today’s society.
Because of this pattern, there are less and less fathers out there sticking around to teach their boys how to become real men and a lot of guys in this day and age are being raised by their mothers.
They grow up not having a masculine father figure in their life that THEY ABSOLUTELY NEED to show them the ropes.
A lot of women today say “he doesn’t need a father” – but I don’t believe this to be the best thinking…
Nothing against women, but it’s my belief that a boy can’t learn EVERYTHING he needs to know about being a real man from his mother. Yes he CAN learn a lot, but nothing can replace an actual masculine man teaching his boy about maturity and manhood – just like a father can’t teach his daughter EVERYTHING about being a woman.
In other countries, majority of them in fact, they have something called a “rite of passage”. A tradition that’s been around since the dawn of civilization. It’s a ritual where the boy must pass a test, sometimes extremely painful or difficult, in order to become a man. He has to “pass” for his “right” to become a man. Hence the term, “rite of passage”. If he passes, he is now considered and looked upon as a man. Some countries even give the boy a spear and make him survive out in the wilderness and kill lions!
I’m not making this up!
In the western world, these traditions have faded away and are pretty much extinct.
We don’t have a rite of passage that boys must pass to prove that they’re a man. To prove that their emotionally, mentally, and physically strong enough to take on the world.
(Check out the movie The Emerald Forest where a boy is put into an ant pile and given hallucinogenic drugs! Crazy stuff man!)
As a result of not having a rite of passage, when these boys reach 18 and it’s time to go out into the REAL WORLD, they’re (not surprisingly) unable to handle the physical, mental, and emotional stress that comes with it and they choose to run back to mommy – and live with them until they’re 27 years old.
People were even trying to get the U.S. Army to start issuing STRESS CARDS – if an instructor is “stressing” a trainee or “private” out, they can pull a card out and the drill instructor has to stop or back off.
They should call them “Wussy Cards” as far as I’m concerned…
Thank goodness that was never passed.
So as a result of a lot of this stuff, more and more men in today’s society are turning out to be immature boys trapped inside of men’s bodies instead of real men physically AND mentally.
Most of these immature men don’t even know they’re immature! They think they’re behaving like real men because they physically look like a man! They have no clue at all what real maturity even looks like…
Honestly, I sadly believe it’ll only get worse as time goes on…
I specifically wrote this article to address what separates REAL MEN from the immature boys (who think they’re men).
Physically Being A Man Doesn’t Make You Mature and a Real Man
When we grow up and hit puberty, we change PHYSICALLY.
Our bodies get bigger, we begin to grow hair where we’ve never had hair, our voices get deeper, our muscles grow and we get more toned, we get taller, our genitals get bigger, etc.
We develop all the physical signs of being a man. All of us.
Puberty causes us to grow up and develop into a mature man – physically.
BUT, we don’t all develop into a man MENTALLY.
I believe this is the factor that ultimately separates THE REAL MEN from the immature boys – our mentality.
So take a look at yourself…
How are YOU mentally?
Your physical state really doesn’t matter when it comes to being a REAL MAN because I know men that are physically masculine and they’re big guys – but when you get to know them, they’re immature little boys who haven’t quite grown up mentally.
They’ve grown up physically, but not mentally.
I also know guys who have gone through puberty but they don’t quite look like they’re done with puberty! Haha.
- They didn’t quite grow as much as they should have.
- They didn’t quite develop as much hair or masculine, manly features.
- They’re not as tall.
- They didn’t’ turn out to be a super manly man, physically.
- They don’t have all the really strong traits of being a big, tough, strong man.
- They’re not physically intimidating.
BUT when you start talking to these guys and they open their mouth, you would think they’re 10 feet tall and bigger than an NFL Linebacker!
These guys may not be a physically big, scary man… but mentally, they’re a big scary man.
Why is this?
Because mentally, they are mature and REAL MEN.
So what separates the mature and real men from the immature boys?
What is it that sticks us in this category of still being an immature boy and not a real man?
What is it about real men that make them real men? What puts them in this category?
Does it have to do with age?
Does it have to do with body size?
Does it have to do with the depth of your voice?
Does it have to do with how strong you are? How much you can bench press? How much you can squat?
So let’s find out what behavior traits and characteristics are holding you back from being a real man and what’s keeping you stuck acting immature.
Here are 10 things keeping you from being a real man: