When She Stops Texting and Calling, It’s Easy to Freak Out
Women have quit calling and texting me more times that I’d like to admit and in hindsight, it’s always what I should have done vs. what I actually did.
When she’s not calling and texting back and you’re confused and in your emotions, the part of you saying “don’t do that”, “stop”, “slow down”, and “take it easy” is always right. It’s important to listen to that voice telling you you’re doing too much.
So to avoid doing too much and putting yourself in an, even worse, position, here are 15 things that minimize the damage and maximize the chances of her calling and texting you back.
1. Understand It Happens to ALL Men
No matter who you are, what you look like, how much money you have, how much women like you, etc, a woman will eventually, when you least expect it, disappear and quit calling and texting you back.
No need to act like a victim and single yourself out. It happens to ALL men and, if it hasn’t yet, the law of numbers says it eventually will.
2. Understand It Doesn’t Matter WHY She Stopped Texting and Calling
In 21 Reasons She Stopped Texting and Calling, you learn 21 of the most common reasons women quit texting and calling so you can get some “closure” about the situation. But the truth is, WHY she stopped calling and texting doesn’t really matter. It doesn’t change ANYTHING.
Knowing WHY she isn’t calling and texting doesn’t give you more control or make her reappear.
The first thing we do when we haven’t heard from her is we freak out and work on figuring out WHY she’s not returning our calls and texts.
Instead, the better mindset is, “It doesn’t matter why she’s not calling and texting. I need to figure out what I should and shouldn’t do in this situation so I can begin to fix it instead of making it worse.”
Most guys put tons of emotion into the situation but it’s better to take a time out and plan an effective course of action rather than crying about it.
3. Avoid Giving Away Inner-Power
In any situation, the calmer you remain, the better it’ll work out.
Attracting women is about keeping your inner-power and not giving it away to anyone because it magnifies and multiplies any kind of attraction she’s feeling.
If she’s not calling and texting back and you freak out and call and text her way too much, you’re giving away the inner-power YOU NEED to maintain and rebuild the attraction.
Think about the inner-power you feel when she normally calls, texts, and communicates with you – you’re calm, confident, and feeling on top of the world. You feel great!
Think about how you feel when she stops contacting you – you feel weak, lame, and powerless.
You’re allowing her and the situation to drain your inner-power. You’re GIVING IT AWAY because you’re not controlling yourself and emotions. Once the power is gone, you’re, literally, powerless. You gave away what you needed to rebuild the attraction and fix the situation.
The more you remain calm, the more clear-minded you will be.
4. Calm Down, Stop Freaking Out and Don’t Make Any Decisions
When there’s a definite change in how much she talks to you, you, naturally, become emotional and think, “Something’s terribly wrong and I need to do something about it right now!”
Although easier said than done, what you need to do is calm down and be cool because, again, it’s critical to remain calm.
Those who get the best results in any situation understand how important it is to remain totally calm and collect during times of high-stress.
The last thing you want to do is make decisions or take action when you’re flooded with emotions. It leads to failure and YOU WILL regret it 100% OF THE TIME.
No matter how much “sense” it makes, if you’re flooded with emotions, it won’t go the way you think you’ll put yourself in an, even worse, position than you are now.
Relax and DON’T DO ANYTHING until the emotions are gone and you’re thinking clearly.
5. Avoid Jumping to Conclusions
You should never make decisions or take action when you’re emotional because you’re more out of touch with the reality. You only want to come to conclusions when your mind is clear and you’ve had time to process ALL of the information.
Don’t try to “figure it out”.
Don’t try to “solve” the problem.
Just leave it alone and give it time.
6. Have the “Whatever” Mindset
Something else much easier said than done is being “whatever” about her not calling and texting.
You need to think, “Whatever… There’s nothing I can do about it right now. I just have to be cool and wait until I hear something back.”
Men who are the most successful with women are the ones who are calm and “whatever” about everything.
Nothing gets to them or under their skin and they’re able to wait ANYTHING out.
Yes, it’s very hard to detach from your emotions during these stressful times, but it’s possible and very necessary to do. Self-control and emotional-control is critical when you don’t know what’s going on or when she’s going to text or call back. The more you think about when she’s going to call or text back, the more you will drive yourself crazy and suffer.
7. Understand You Can’t Control What She Does
It’s wise to understand and accept that she’s going to do what she’s going to do and there’s NOTHING you can do about it.
You can’t control her through your thoughts and emotions. You can’t control her by calling and texting her over and over.
It’s hard to accept but once you do, it’ll free your mind and help you relax.
You’ll don’t results by “hoping” and “wishing” she acted the way YOU want her to.
Give up wanting control over her actions and reactions and let the chips fall where they may.
8. Don’t Blame Yourself
It’s usually not entirely your fault when she stops calling and texting. But, even if it is, it doesn’t matter.
You made a mistake… LEARN FROM IT AND MOVE ON. Blaming yourself and feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t change the situation and it’s THAT big of a deal.
Lose the “What did I do wrong?” thoughts.
Instead, develop the mindset of, “I don’t know what happened but I’m not going to waste time and energy trying to figure it out. I’ll just wait until she gets back to me.”
If it is your fault but she’s being immature and about it, then rise above the situation and realize you don’t want to be wish someone like that anyways.
9. Be Patient
Get good at the waiting game and be cool about it. Women get into emotional funks and sometimes they “need some time” to process their thoughts and emotions.
How long will she take to text back? A day? A week? Never? It doesn’t matter. Put those thoughts out of your mind. It’s like watching the hands move on a clock – it makes time go slower.
Patience can really make the difference between her sticking around and running away. Even if you’re impatient, don’t show it. Be cool about it.
10. Stay Busy
It’s easier to be patient when you’re occupied with goals, tasks, and activities. Doing noting while waiting for her to call and text back is the last thing you want to do.
Find things that soak up your time and, before you know it, a week has gone by and she’s starting to reach out to you again.
11. Stop Being Paranoid
Avoid obsessing over what you did wrong because it’s very easy to take something small, blow it up, and make it worse than what it is.
Again, just be “whatever” about the situation and wait it out.
12. Avoid Calling and Texting Over and Over
If you overdo it with the calls and texts, she’s less likely to get back to you.
MOST GUYS are freaking out when she’s not calling and texting back and they call and text over and over thinking it’ll help the situation – but it only makes it worse and kills the rest of the attraction.
But when she doesn’t hear back from you either because you’re playing it cool, it catches her attention and makes her wonder, “I wonder what happened to him? I haven’t heard from at all. I’m going to text him.”
When she reaches out and you’re totally cool about it, it begins to rebuild the attraction and the connection you once had.
13. Lose the Victim Mindset
YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM when she doesn’t text or call back.
She’s free to do as she wants. There’s no written rule that says she’s obligated to return your texts and calls.
The thing that freaks most women out is when you play the victim and start making them feel guilty for not calling and texting back. She’s not committing a crime and victimizing you by not responding to your texts and calls.
Shitty things happen but it doesn’t make you a victim and it doesn’t make her a bad person for not calling and texting back.
14. Keep Your Standards High
If she’s ghosting you and lacking the decency to call or text you back, even to let you know she doesn’t want to talk to you, then choose not to waste anymore of your time on her. That level of being inconsiderate should be below your standards and completely unacceptable.
Develop the ability to cut it off right then and there and move forward with no regrets.
15. Respect Yourself
When you allow her to make you lose control of your emotions and act like a victim, you’re not respecting yourself.
Self-respect always comes first and if you waste time on women who don’t care about or respect you, then you’re lacking in self-respect.
Only pay attention to those who respect you and your time.
When she doesn’t text or call back, it’s best to keep your head on straight, not jump to conclusions, and not make any sudden moves.
Be patient, play it cool, and wait it out.
After enough time passes, if it seems she forgot about you, then it’s important to have the mental strength to to move on. Hanging onto the hope of being with someone who clearly doesn’t want you is a waste of your time and you’re not being fair to yourself.
Thanks for reading and I wish you the best of luck,
– Marc Summers