What Is Being “Wrapped Around Her Finger”?
The same as “pussy whipped”, wrapped around her finger means you’re under her power, she has control over you, and you’ll do anything she wants and when she wants. It means you’re putting her on a pedestal and putting her happiness before your own.
In the eBook and Audiobook How to Quit Being a Loser with Women, you’ll learn that being her puppet and giving her complete control over you does not make her feel attraction. It actually kills the attraction and makes her think you’re lame.
If She Thinks She You Wrapped Around Her Finger, You’re Screwed
Wrapped around her finger is the worst place you can find yourself in. It’s worse than her hating your guts and thinking you’re the biggest asshole or jerk she’s ever met.
You have about a 75% higher chance of her wanting you as “more than a friend” if she thinks you’re a jerk than if she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger.
If she has all the power and you are her little servant boy, you’re better off deleting her number, unfriending her on Facebook, and forgetting you ever met her because she will set you up in a permanent luxury penthouse in the friend zone. She’ll lock the door and you’ll never escape.
So avoid being wrapped around any woman’s finger, here are 15 signs you’re acting weak and unattractive around her.
1. You Seek Permission
Since you’re so desperate for her approval, you’re seeking her permission before holding her hand, touching her, asking her questions, etc.
Stop seeking permission out of fear that she’ll disapprove. If you want to do something, just do it. If you want to hold her hand, kiss her, etc. just give it a shot and see what happens. Take the risk. Remember, saying“It’s better to ask for forgiveness that it is to ask for permission”.
When keep seeking permission, she’s thinking you’re a scared little bitch. She wants you to be a man about it – of course, within societal and legal norms. I’m not encouraging rape. Use common sense.
2. You’ll Do ANYTHING For Her
If she’s not your girlfriend or wife and you’re constantly going out of your way and inconveniencing yourself for her, she knows she probably has you wrapped around her finger.
DO NOT be willing to do anything for her. It makes you look weak and desperate and she loses respect for you.
Never give her the idea that she can use you for whatever she wants.
3. You Believe It When She Says You’re Her “Best Friend”
When she says you’re her “best friend” and she “doesn’t want to mess that up”, don’t buy it. Instead of agreeing with her, just walk away.
Women can be VERY convincing, make you feel important, give you the pouty face, lots of eye contact, and give you the puppy dog eyes – BUT IT’S ALL AN ACT. It’s the same look she gives children and you should be offended that she would even think about treating you like a child.
If you buy it when she talks about what a great “friend” you are, you’re wrapped around her finger and she’s playing games.
4. You Tolerate Drama and Disrespect
When women get childish, dramatic, and disrespectful, you need to be on top of it like chunky kid on cookies. Tell her it’s not cool and ask her not to do it anymore. If it happens again, stop wasting your time on her.
Stop caring about her approval. Stop caring about hurting her feelings. Your self-respect and how others treat you is more important than her attention.
She wants the guy who isn’t afraid of losing her.
If she’s dramatic and disrespectful and you’re accepting it because you don’t want to piss her off, then you’re giving her your power and leading her to believe she has you wrapped around her finger.
5. You Don’t Call Her Out on Her BS
Again, when she’s dramatic and disrespectful, you have to call her out on it and tell her to knock it off. Your brain will tell you it’s not a good idea because she’ll run away and never come back but, in reality, she’ll respect you more, appreciate you for making your boundaries clear, and feel more attraction.
She’ll begin to see that you ARE NOT wrapped around her finger and she will see you as more than just a friend.
6. You’re Always Available
Women used to guys who are wrapped around their finger answering right away, replying to texts immediately, and calling back as soon as they see she called.
When you’re never unavailable, it screams you’re desperate and afraid of disappointing her.
From now on, if she calls while you’re busy, don’t answer. Send a text, “Hey. I’ll give you a call back here in a little bit.” If she texts while you’re busy, text back later when you have the time.
Your life doesn’t revolve around her. It doesn’t revolve around catering to her needs. She’s only part of your life, not the center of it.
Stop being afraid of upsetting her if you don’t answer, reply, or call back right away.
Women rarely run away just because you didn’t answer, reply, or call her back immediately and if they do, you just saved yourself a big headache.
7. You Drop Everything You’re Doing When She Wants
If you’re putting everything on hold because you’re afraid she’ll run away if you don’t, then you’re wrapped around her finger.
YOUR LIFE, PRIORITIES, AND GOALS COME FIRST. Her needs are secondary.
It sounds like a jerk move but IF you constantly put her first, she WILL eventually cheat on you or run away. If she doesn’t run away or cheat, she’ll definitely make you less of a priority. If you focus on your goals and priorities, she’ll fight for your attention and prove she wants to be in your life.
Stop dropping everything just to make her happy.
8. You Pay Her Bills, Buy Her Gifts, and Give Her Money
If you’re paying her bills, surprising her with expensive gifts, and handing her money, you’re in serious trouble. This is the ultimate red flag that you’re doing something wrong.
When you’re using money to influence her to like you, she’s positive she has you wrapped around her finger.
9. She Uses You and You Stay Silent
Never let women use you as an ATM, a taxi, to get them out of trouble, or anything else.
Unless she’s riding in your vehicle somewhere WITH YOU, tell her she can call a friend, family member, an Uber, or a taxi. Giving women rides DOES NOT build attraction or get you laid, it wastes your time, and becomes a destructive habit once she knows you won’t tell her no.
When she gets HERSELF into trouble, let her clean up her own mess. She got herself into it, she can get herself out. You’re not her hero who comes running when she needs help. She should be smart and mature enough to keep herself out of trouble and fix her own problems.
Stop letting women take advantage of you and use you as a crutch. When she’s trying to walk all over you, make it clear you’re not that guy.
If she can have her way with you and you’re too weak of a man to speak up and say anything to her about it, she knows she has you wrapped around her finger.
10. She Vents About Other Guys
The way it’s supposed to work is when she’s dumping her problems with other guys on you, you’re supposed to be like, “Whoa. Time out dude. Whatever problems you’re having is between you and him. I don’t want to talk about other guys.”
Will that make her run away? No.
BUT our logical mind, once again, thinks it will make her run away.
It’s a clear sign she’s not feeling much attraction for you if she’s completely fine venting about another guy to you.
If you weren’t wrapped around her finger and she was very attracted to you, she would know that bringing up the topic of her relationship with other guys is attraction suicide and she’d be avoiding it.
But since she’s not avoiding it, it’s a sign that she’s clearly attracted to the guy she’s talking about more than she is you.
11. She Makes You Wait Knowing You Won’t Get Mad
When women selfishly and disrespectfully make you wait, you shouldn’t accept it. It’s a waste of your time. It’s a sign she doesn’t respect you or your time very much and she knows she can treat you however she wants.
She knows she has you wrapped around her finger and you’re too much of a wuss to correct her – no matter how mad it makes you.
12. You Don’t Say “No”
Not being wrapped around her finger comes down to telling her “no”.
If you don’t master the art of telling her “no”, no matter how amazing she is, you will stay wrapped around their finger and she will never feel attraction for you.
What’s holding you back with women is ONE WORD – “No”.
It’s just as easy to say as “yes”.
All you have to do is locate your balls, or take them back out of her purse, open your mouth, and tell her “no”.
It’s the solution to SO MANY problems you’re facing with women.
She has you wrapped around her finger because you lack the ability to say “no”.
When you were two years old and you started talking, one of your favorite words was “no”.
You weren’t scared to say it to your parents who were much bigger, stronger, and faster than you and they could easy whoop your bratty little ass – why are you scared to say it now?
Seriously, the guys who have tons of success with women are fantastic at saying “no” and it’s what turned my dating life around.
It’s one of my favorite words now because it helps me maintain my peace of mind and ability to attract women.
Unwrap yourself from her finger, become a man about it, and start telling women “no”.
Conclusion: She’d Rather Be Wrapped Around Your Finger than Vise Versa
The truth is, she’d rather be wrapped around YOUR finger than to have you wrapped around hers.
Women love having a man who won’t give her way too much, says “no”, respects himself, and expects her to respect his boundaries.
They love telling their girlfriends that “he has me wrapped around his finger”.
It’s the “little girl” part of her mind that loves hanging all over and jumping on her daddy.
It’s the masculine dominance and inner power that she loves, craves, and enjoys being around.
If you start to feel like you’re being “too nice“, saying “yes” too much, she’s losing respect for you, and she’s starting to have too much power over you, come back to this article, read it again, and fix your behavior.
Thanks for reading,
– Marc Summers